The After-Death
March 6th, 2006 by Erin Pavlina
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What happens to us when we die? I think every human being wonders this. It’s the great unknown, this final frontier. We’ve all heard stories from people who crossed over and came back. The details differ a little bit, but the essence is the same: the soul leaves the body and exists outside of it. But how do we know if there really is life after death? What if these people simply weren’t “dead” long enough to find out.
There’s no way to know for sure what happens after we die. All we have is faith and belief. And for some of us, memories.
A few months ago I dreamed that I died. I dream this a lot. No matter what the circumstances of the dream, though, when I die I am always greeted by another soul, usually a wiser one than myself. In this particular dream, this soul appeared to be wearing white robes, was male, and had the obligatory grey beard and mustache and long hair. I was with a group of other souls who had recently crossed over and each one spoke briefly to this man and then went on to another area I could not see. When it was my turn to speak with him, he welcomed me and asked if I would like to go on or simply cease to exist. This surprised me. Here is how our conversation ensued.
Me:Â You mean I get to choose?
Him: Yes. You may choose for your spirit to continue on and take the next step in your evolution or you may choose to let your spirit dissipate and become part of the ether again.
Me: Wow, I always believed our souls continue on in the afterlife. I know so many people who think that when you die you just disappear; that there is no afterlife at all.
Him:Â Yes, it’s a choice.Â
Me: Well then who would choose to just disappear entirely? If there is the chance of continuing to exist, why would anyone choose to disappear altogether?
Him: Fear, pain, lack of belief. Many people simply aren’t that interested in evolving. They find life too difficult and don’t want to try again. There is no shame in letting your essence merge back with the ether.
Me: I never considered that. I very much want to continue on, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to just disappear completely. I guess I’ll never know.
Him:Â Actually, if you’d like, I can allow you to experience both choices and then you can decide.
Me: Oh. Wow. Okay, sure. I’d like to know the difference, I guess.
Him: Very well. This is how it will feel if you choose to merge your essence back into the ether and no longer evolve.Â
He waved his hand over me and I felt myself disappearing. It was unlike any experience I have EVER had. I could feel my SELF just fading away. All of my consciousness. It was not like becoming unconscious (I’ve experienced that before during surgery). It was literally the sense that I was being dispersed … unraveled … forever … gone. When there was just the tiniest of pinpricks of my energy left, I began to panic and tried to pull my essence together before it was gone forever.Â
I came back gasping in shock at the experience.
Me: No, no. I didn’t like that at all. That was horrible. I never want to experience that again.
Him: I knew you wouldn’t like it. But you can imagine how if a soul is in deep pain and doesn’t desire growth, that it is a comfortable way to end one’s existence.
Me: There was nothing comfortable about that experience. But I’m not a soul in pain so maybe it feels differently for me. Why don’t you just counsel people, so they want to continue to live. Why not just show them what they have to live for?
Him: We try. But free will exists even here. If people want to end their existences, they are free to do so.
Me: Okay, well I appreciate the experience but I definitely want to go on. Can you show me what that’s like?
Him:Â Certainly.
He waved his arm over me again and this time I felt lighter and filled with energy. It was like I was infused with a power and strength I had never felt before on Earth. I could practically hear a chorus of angels, a vibrational humming that resonated deep within my soul. I felt like I was coming home. I wanted to embrace that feeling and move towards it. I no longer felt constrained by my “body.” I was just ethereal energy.Â
But he brought me back before I could move on.
Me: Yes, yes! That’s what I want. I’m certain.
Him: I know you are, Erin. But it’s not time for you to move on. This is just a dream, you know. I only wanted to give you a glimpse of the choices people have to make when they die.
Me: But why bother? I’ve always believed the soul goes on after death. You had to know I would choose to continue on.
Him: Yes, that’s true. I didn’t reveal this to you so you could choose. I showed this to you so you could share it with others. Many souls who come to this point believe so strongly that there is no “afterlife” that they are simply unable to grasp that they have a choice. Before they reach me, they choose to dissipate. They never realize they have a choice. I want you to let people know this, so that when they die they consider both options. Explain to people how their souls evolve, how they can live more than one life, and how beautiful it is to remain “themselves” inside the ether. Let them know what it feels like to “go home.”
I woke from the dream instantly.
I have no idea if this dream was a sending or not. (A sending is communication from the other side). But it felt like one to me. I have no way of knowing if this is the real choice that faces us when we die. I won’t know until it happens to me again.
But if there is a chance … if your spirit can continue on into the “light” or whatever you want to call it … then think about it. Next time you find yourself dead, wait and see what happens before your lack of belief in an afterlife chooses for you.
And look for me when you get there. I’ll be the one waving you on to “home” plate.
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March 6th, 2006 at 3:23 pm
Wow. Just wow. I would have asked what happens to ‘bad’ people, though. Even if it is just your subconscious you are talking to, it would still be interesting to hear what it has to say on the matter.
March 7th, 2006 at 6:51 am
There are very few bad people in this world. I’m talking truly evil. Most people who are unkind, unloving, greedy, selfish, and cruel are simply spirits who have lost their way are are vibrating at a low frequency. When they meet their maker they get the same options as everyone else. They get a chance to review their life, make better decisions, understand the consequences of their actions, and try again.
March 7th, 2006 at 7:27 am
I think you should have a look at The Tibetian Book Of The Dead
Have fun…
March 9th, 2006 at 2:40 pm
Why can’t the guy with the beard tell everyone in their dreams to carry on and not dissipate at death? Why would he have to go through you to communicate with others?
You know, stories like these always make me wonder why life (death) should be so complicated. If there’s a god, he can damn talk to me right away if he wants to reach me. If there’s some afterlife-guy with a grey beard who wants to tell me to reconsider before giving up before meeting him, he surely would find a way to contact me. After all, he must be some dead ghost/soul, right?
March 9th, 2006 at 3:03 pm
Arno: Most people can’t remember their dreams let alone hear communication on this level. If you have your “radio” set on mute, whose fault is it if you can’t hear the broadcast. As for God talking to people directly, it’s the same thing. God speaks to people all the time; whether they hear him or not is their problem.
March 12th, 2006 at 10:24 am
Thanks for answering, Erin!
Still, it makes no sense. If god wanted people to listen, he’d make them to. He has superpower, hasn’t he? He is omnipotent. So why should he talk to people who don’t listen?
I can see that the “radio on mute” analogy makes sense for non-omnipotent beings, but for god, it is just plain silly.
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March 12th, 2006 at 4:37 pm
Arno: Free will. God won’t make people do anything. If He did, no reason for us to exist really. He wants us to decide and take actions and He sees what happens.
May 4th, 2006 at 1:50 pm
If everyone gets to decide to live a better life without evil then will the earth eventually be free of it?
May 15th, 2006 at 6:22 am
I am a bit worried reading this…. I know someone who suffers from low feelings and does not believe in an afterlife, I worry that he may choose to never experience life again and to disappear….. I can see him doing this
May 22nd, 2006 at 12:12 pm
What if people die traggically and don’t want the possibly of dying like that again?
May 22nd, 2006 at 1:41 pm
Misti, what is a tragic death? Are you talking about a horrible painful death or are you talking about the loss that the living feel when the person dies?
Death lasts just a moment and then we are whole again on the other side. Even a painful death is fleeting in the grand scheme of things. If you’re talking about a painful loss for the living then that’s another story.
June 1st, 2006 at 12:04 am
i dont like the term god. it always seems too male and i find that a bit repulsive. i prefere the term truth. the greatness of spirituality and existance is tarnished when we put a human animal lable to it. human life is a monumental gift and it is our outstanding right to bask in its hugeness. i love your husbands articles, he seems a very worthy companion to such a gentle soul.
rock on.
August 3rd, 2006 at 1:51 pm
Hi,
For us Muslims, this is not a controversial issue! It’s mentioned in the Holy Quran hundred of times and we live it! What is happening after death is an intermediary life (grave life)! During which a man knows where he is going; heaven or hell! There is no third choice.
We live for the Hereafter as we are dying tomorrow and we live for the life (current life) as we are living forever! We worship Allah “God” and we live an excellent life – we do not need to guess of what is happening after we die – because we know it.
Please get more and know more about Islam by visiting http://www.islamtoday.com
Try it for curiosity , I am sure you will like reading it.
Thanks
October 29th, 2006 at 8:48 am
This stuff is all great, but what do u do when your ego is too big to bow before a God?
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