Fear-Based Guides
August 16th, 2006 by Erin Pavlina
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Something unusual and unexpected occured during a reading I did about a month ago. I’d like to tell you what happened and share with you what my own guides told me about the experience, just in case some of you are experiencing this.
When I tune in to do a reading I always ask to speak with a person’s higher self and guides. Well, when I tuned in on this sitter, I got the metaphorical image that I normally get and I explained it to him. We went over it and he understood everything I was talking about and how it pertained to his life. Then we moved on to the question and answer portion of the reading. He asked me something about his life purpose, and some other issues plaguing him. I discovered that he was heavily involved with his own ego, not in a narcissistic way (though there was some of that too), but in the way you get when you are living life based on a control and fear strategy instead of a love and faith strategy.
You know you’re living in your ego when thoughts like the following run through your head:
- How can I make sure John doesn’t get that promotion and that I do?
- How can I avoid paying child support and still get away with it?
- I need to tell my wife that it’s my way or the highway.
- Why am I always getting shafted, I deserve better!
- No one realizes how important I am.
- I’m ashamed of my race.
- I always get taken advantage of. People really suck.
- … and so on
So, I mentioned to him that he was living in his ego and I explained to him what I meant. He seemed to understand. Then he asked me a really brave question, “What do I need to do to change? I don’t want to live my life in the ego because it’s really wrecked my life up to this point.” I was hopeful. I tuned back in to get the answer and this is when the strange thing happened.
When I tune in I can see like a movie or images playing out on my mental screen. In this case, when he asked his question and I tuned in, I saw a dark, shadowy figure actually coming at me, as if I was the camera. The figure put his hands up as though to block me from seeing. It was trippy. There was power and energy coming from him and he basically said to me, “Don’t answer that! I won’t let you help him find his way back to love.” I was shocked. Who or what was this thing? Was this some sort of metaphor? But I realized it had consciousness. I wasn’t just seeing an image, I was connecting with some sort of entity.
And it sort of hit me that this shadowy, dark creature was trying to block the reading. I told my sitter that I had encountered something unusual and asked him to wait while I tried to figure it out. I called in all kinds of love, light, and my own spirit guides to help me, and they did but it was like they were coming to me from a faint, faraway place. They did manage to give me the answer he needed. I conveyed it to him and we discussed it. The reading was nearly over by this point and I wrapped it up. I told him about the figure I had seen and told him that I thought it was a manifestation of his ego actually trying to block him from moving away from fear. We talked about how he may have ended up living a fear-based life (based on a tragedy in his early life), and I talked to him about how to live a more love and faith based life. I’m not sure he got it, but I was at least glad I got the chance to help him.
Later I decided to have a conversation with my own guides about what I experienced since that had never happened to me before. My guides told me that when a person turns away from a life of love and faith, then the guides assigned to them change! Whoa. Big news to me. They told me that when someone is living a fear-based life, they end up with fear-based guides. It’s like the proverbial angel and devil on your shoulder. If you listen to the angel, the devil’s voice eventually subsides. But if you listen to the devil (and I’m talking the ego here, not Satan), then eventually the angel voice subsides. If the ego becomes strong enough, it can flick that angel right off your shoulder and you never even realize that the only counsel you’re getting is from the devil side. Once established, you can be sure that devil isn’t going to give up control too easily.
Most of us have spirit guides that were assigned to us in love and faith. I believe there are some souls who incarnate and consciously decide to be fear-based, but I think the majority of people want to stay in the light. It was a big shock to me that people can lose the guides they were born with and end up with fear-based guides instead. I can see how easy it would be, under those circumstances, to slip into lower vibrational behaviors such as addiction, murderous rage, narcissism, and the like.
It makes sense though, doesn’t it? Have you ever known someone who slipped away to the dark side? Someone who started listening to the “devil on his shoulder?”
How do you bring someone back from the dark side? That’s going to be a post for a different time, but what’s important for us to realize right now is that we always have that choice. Light or dark. Faith or fear. Love or anger. What’s sitting on your shoulder right now? Who or what is guiding you?
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August 16th, 2006 at 4:58 am
HI Erin,
The things you explained here is very true. I believe that its the nature in this world – good and evil. As long as you are in love mode even when things goes wrong you fing your way back to life.When the things like ego,doubt,anger,loosing faith gets control; life becomes a roller coaster. some people find some way to live the life in that way happily but some people find it difficult to go here or there and sitting in the middle , couldn’t know what to do? And hearing the voice which ask them to disconnect from the world and ask them to send the negative vibration to people around them; Yet feeling sad for what they do?Is there really a way out and gain the love life back from this dark creature?
August 16th, 2006 at 8:05 am
Well, this explanation seems to make sense. The thing I have sensed is that darker guides will wait in the wings if a person is vulnerable, and the more or less insulated a person is with faith or fear determines that vulnerability.
The other thing thing I wonder is why does it “seem” to feel harder to shake or clear negative entities? Such as what you experienced with barely being able to continue to recieve guidance for the sitter? Do they pretty much count on us being inexperienced with facing them, so they exploit that?
Also, something else I ponder: can generational entities hang out to perpetuate “broken” mindsets and habits? Is this how so-called family curses take shape?
August 16th, 2006 at 8:11 am
This also underscores how much our choice and intention (or lack thereof) come into play.
It’s as if lighter guides are obliged to step aside if our defaults are unconsciously set toward the negative.
So many of us just don’t get how active our participation must be in setting up what we intend, from general mood, health, etc. on to conflict, abundance, etc.
Yet we live in a realm where choice is key to the equation. Yet we seem to choose not to choose. Then we wonder why “life is so hard” or how “did THIS happen?”
August 16th, 2006 at 9:31 am
Maybe the figure represented someone in his life, like a spouse or close friend who was trying to hold him back..
August 16th, 2006 at 9:41 am
Oh dear, this is scary. I love my boyfriend bigtime, but he has a very negative and fearful look upon life. That hurts him and sometimes it’s even contagious. I’m a pathological optimist, but sometimes it feels like I can’t keep up. Now, reading your article, i feel that sometimes his devil even tries to push MY angel away! I trust my guide, I think it’s very very strong, so no worries. But I can’t wait untill you write about how to help someone with a strong devil and a nearly absent angel…. I do not want to believe the angel is really gone. Oh dear.
August 16th, 2006 at 11:41 am
hi Erin,
I practice quit the same work as you do, in Holland, and my guide, Juria, felt a strong urge to react on your article. In great lines it is the same reaction on what happened, with one important difference:
dear Erin, this is Juria speaking. You know, as we all do, that a spirutal guide is a human being who has finished his/her cycle of birth and rebirth on earth. Therefor he/she is able to 100% serve antoher human being with unconditional love. One of the criteria by which to know you are relating to a spiritual guide (a being of light), is that they all practice one golden rule: we respect free will.
Every human being is garanteed his/her free choice, so also the choice to listen to his guide, or to listen to other beings that do not live in light and love (and have their own reasons and drives in their fysical or non-fysical life).
Making the choice to listen to a fear-driven (or other) being does not mean the lightguide is gone, let aside a fear-driven guide is ASSIGNED to this person. We, spiritual guides, never leave our pupils. This can only happen when both the guide and the pupil agree to that in consiousness, i.e. in between two lifetimes.
So yes, there are these ‘devils’ on your shoulder (in fact, a dozen), but whoever en human is listening to, we will never ever leave him/her.
With great love and respect to your work,
Juria
August 16th, 2006 at 11:50 am
Juria/Leonne, I agree with most of what you said. I will be doing a follow up to this post tomorrow to better explain this concept and to answer the questions people have sent me on this topic. Thanks for chiming in.
I’ll say this now, though, don’t be afraid. Nothing to be scared of. I’ll explain tomorrow.
August 17th, 2006 at 12:32 pm
Hi Erin,
Well, not right this moment as I type this, but a few minutes ago, I had a barbell on my shoulders. I was doing some light squats just to clear my mind a little. Light or dark, love or anger, is it really how it is? Does a “dark side” even exist outside of human perception of “right” and “wrong”? I am not sure it does…
P.S. Very good subject Erin!
August 18th, 2006 at 10:13 pm
Interesting post, both this one and the follow-up article. Along the lines of iFitandHealthy, I wanted to ask Erin if you’ve ever had experiences where the “guides,” the “darkness,” etc. dissolve into a world of non-duality?
I have experienced entities as well and at one time found some of them rather scary. Doing the work I do, I still sometimes see dark masses or not-so-nice guides around someone, but I find that with unconditional compassion, the forms break down into tinier and tinier forms until what remains is only energy. Only love: oneness, formlessness, peace beyond ordinary understanding, and realization that our highest self really is I AM–a verb and a divinity that runs throughout all creation. In the state of unconditional compassion, there is no difference between another person or entities or guides. With this awareness, the “evil ego-based guides” and the resulting fear dissolve.
As the Scriptures say, “Perfect love casts out fear,” because if underneath the illusion of separation it’s all one, and it’s all love, then there’s nothing left to fear.