They say people’s two biggest fears in life are death and public speaking. It’s only natural to fear the unknown. But you don’t have to fear death if you don’t want to. Fearing death is a choice. If you haven’t experienced it yet, why assume it’s going to be something horrible?
In reality, it’s your belief about death that causes you to fear it. Do you fear death because you believe it will be the end of you, your essence, and you don’t want to end? Do you fear death because you’ve been taught that God will judge you and you may not fare so well? Are you afraid you’re going to go to Hell? Do you fear you’re going to be floating like a cloud for eternity? Are you concerned that you might be “alive” in your body in your coffin forever? Do you fear death because you don’t want to meet up with abusive parents on the other side?
We fear death because we don’t know what’s going to happen when we die and therefore we don’t know if we should be afraid or look forward to it.
What evidence do we have about the existence of the afterlife? There are books that include accounts of people who have had near-death experiences, where they died, had an experience, and came back to tell of it. Some would say they weren’t really dead if they were able to come back, so their accounts aren’t real and were probably hallucinations. There are books that contain accounts of those who remember their past lives, suggesting there is a life, then an afterlife, then more lives. There are those who have had out of body experiences and know that their soul can live without their body. And of course there are mediums who communicate with those on the other side; if the dead weren’t there, how could mediums communicate with them?
Some say near death experiences, past lives, out of body experiences, and communication with deceased relatives are hogwash. These people have probably never experienced any of them, because I can tell you that people who have experienced them tend to have no doubts that our consciousness survives death.
What if death was something wonderful though? What if when you die you go to a loving, peaceful place? What if you’re reunited with loved ones you’ve been missing terribly? What if death releases you from pain and misery and puts you back together again, whole?
Since most people have not had a personal experience that convinces them of the existence of an afterlife, they have no choice but to bring their dominant belief about death to the table. What is your belief? And do you realize that with no personal experience, you’re adopting a belief for which you have no evidence? And if you have no evidence for it, then your belief is based on speculation. Why speculate that something terrible happens after death instead of speculating that something wonderful happens after death? Since you have an absence of evidence either way, why choose something that scares you? How does that empower you?
All of your beliefs in life should empower you. If you lack evidence for a belief, adopt one that empowers you instead of one that scares you.
If you want to stop fearing death, first get clarity on what you believes happens when we die. Then ask yourself if you have evidence to support that belief. If not, ask yourself if there is a more empowering belief you could adopt that, if it were true, would cause you to stop fearing death. Then adopt that belief.
I personally don’t fear death at all. I’ve had out of body experiences that show me that my body is just a shell that houses my soul. I’ve communicated countless times with deceased people on the other side when I do intuitive readings for my clients, making connections with people I can’t possibly know existed. I have memories of past lives. And lastly, I have memories of my time between lives which I believe to be accurate. Have I physically died in this incarnation yet? No. But I don’t fear death because my personal evidence strongly suggests to me that death is nothing to fear and that we do go on with our consciousness intact.
I don’t fear death, which makes living a lot easier too. When you aren’t afraid to die, you find you aren’t afraid to really live, because in the end, nothing can truly harm you, not even death.
Lose your fear of death today. Adopt a new, more empowering belief about death, and then join Toastmasters to get over your fear of public speaking.