It’s time for another installment of Quick Answers to Quick Questions. Yesterday I asked my Twitter and Facebook followers for their questions and got quite a nice variety. If you want to contribute to the next round of questions, be sure to send me a friend request on Facebook or follow me on Twitter. Thank you to everyone who sent questions.
What is one book or other source you would highly recommend for a complete beginner interested in becoming an intuitive counselor?
You’ll want to develop a very clear connection with your guides, specifically your conduit guide. And you’ll want to be proficient in counseling. So I would study the “How To” information of other intuitive counselors such as myself, Colette Baron-Reid, and Sonia Choquette. Read their books or their blogs, attend their seminars, teleconferences, and workshops. Or arrange a consult to get detailed answers to the questions that pertain to you in your individual situation.
What do colors in dreams represent? Aura or chakra colors? I have had two dreams in a row where the same shade of the colors green and orange have featured prominently in wedding scenes but in different contexts.
Green is the heart chakra color related to compassion, empathy, love, and connection with others. Orange is the sacral chakra color related to relationships and emotions. It’s no wonder you saw them at a wedding. I’d have to know how you felt in the dream to help you better understand why these colors are coming up for you.
In times of personal woe, a lot of people have trouble connecting spiritually. How would you suggest they find comfort if they feel cut off in that way?
In times of woe is definitely when you most need your spiritual connections. Read my free ebook: 10 Ways To Raise Your Vibration in Under 10 Minutes, which you can get instantly when you sign up for my newsletter. Everything in there will help you reconnect with yourself and your spiritual posse on the other side very quickly. Nothing helps me reconnect faster than sitting down to a nice virtual cup of hot chocolate and a hug from my higher self, who is a constant reminder that this too shall pass, that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and that you can always choose love. For long term reconnection, I highly recommend meditation and the practice of feeling blessed by keeping a gratitude log.
Do you have any thoughts about whether the use of antidepressants inhibits a person’s intuitive abilities and/or psychic development?
I’ve never been on antidepressants nor have I known someone who has tried to utilize their intuitive abilities while on antidepressants, so I could only hazard a guess. Anything that impairs your vibration or ability to connect with your guides is going to impair or inhibit your intuitive abilities and your psychic development, whether that’s alcohol, drugs, shame, fear, anger, anxiety, guilt, etc. To effectively utilize your psychic faculties you’ll want to be as clear as you can.
What are the top two or three inspiring books you read in 2009?
Most of the books I read in 2009 were related to health and relationships, but I wouldn’t say any of them were particularly inspiring; rather I would say they were informative. One of my goals in 2010 is to catch up and brush up on the spiritual books out there. First up is Conversations with God, which I’ve never read, but now feel called to read. I’m just going to pop by the Hay House website and see what they’ve got on tap.
How do you deal with a deceased person who keeps coming into your dreams and insists she is not dead?
Whoa. Talk about violation of personal space! If it were me, I would show them the door, which in this case is the light. Help them crossover by gently suggesting they are in fact dead, and I would ask the angels to guide them to the other side. I encountered a fellow many years ago who didn’t know he was dead. It took me 5 tries to convince him he was dead. If they won’t go, find out if there is unfinished business they’d like you to help them tie up. That might be enough to get them to cross over peacefully.
And what’s your take on crystal healing?
I don’t have a lot of experience with crystal healing. I recall when I was a teenager trying to use crystals to heal myself when I was ill or in pain. It never seemed to work, so either it doesn’t work or I was doing it wrong. My jury is still out on crystals. I haven’t worked with them enough to tout their benefits just yet.
In order to heal deep emotional wounds do we need people or life situations to open up (trigger) those wounds in order for us to heal them?
No I don’t believe so. You are capable of deciding how you want to feel about the past, the present, and the future. It isn’t always easy to hold a loving energy towards a situation, event or person, but it’s always possible. I find that asking the pain why it’s there is important, and learning the lesson is important too. Pain and difficulty come when we resist what is, when our expectations are violated, when we feel victimized. I have found that accepting responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and actions is very helpful in healing old wounds, as is asking myself how I’d like to feel about the situation.
Does hanging around people with a lower vibration lower my vibrational frequency? And do I have the capacity to become immune?
If you are in a high vibrational state like love, peace, or gratitude and you hang around with someone in a lower vibrational state like anger, for example, then either your vibration will drop or theirs will be raised, or you can both maintain your vibrations if that is your desire. It is not automatic that yours will lower or theirs will raise. Guarding against those whose energy lowers ours, though, is something I highly recommend. Learn how to maintain your higher vibrational state when you are around those who might pull you down. Be an example for them. I think we all have the capacity to choose the frequency at which we want to vibrate, but I haven’t personally met anyone yet who doesn’t occasionally drop into a lower vibration.
What is the most empowering lesson that you’ve learned so far from your recent separation? (I hope it’s not too personal or too soon to ask) I just think more people need to see that you can find personal power in “negative” situations. I believe you have a good perspective on life and can get that message across.
Great question. Most empowering lesson is that I’m learning to rely on myself. Expressing my own power and authority. It feels great. A little scary, but ultimately awesome! I kill my own spiders, open my own jars, set up my own electronics, I’m a rockstar! ;) My relationship with Steve is like energy, it was not destroyed in our separation, it merely changed form. And I’m enjoying getting reacquainted with parts of me that were buried in the relationship. I’m remembering the power of my own message and am looking forward to sharing it more often and more deeply with my readers.
I have been working on my ability to tune into various energies, such as my guides, angels, and environment. However I am not exactly sure specifically how to tune myself in, outside of guided meditations and visualization. Besides simply concentrating and focusing on that which I want to tune into, can you describe in detail the general “tuning in” process? Sometimes it feels as if I cannot locate my station changing knob.
Tuning in is usually the easy part. The hard part is trusting that you are tuned in to the being you’re trying to communicate with, being able to interpret and understand what you’re receiving, and having the confidence to act upon it. Unfortunately it’s beyond the scope of this article to go into the kind of detail we’d need to go into, but I would say to continue to have long conversations with your guides (the longer you go the more tuned in you will be), write down what they’re telling you or showing you, act on it, and see what results you get. You can also ask your guides to help you tune in better, then get out of your own way (and your own logic) and let them show you how to hear them best.
How can you distinguish the voices of your higher self/spirit guides from those of your ego or mind chatter?
Read this article I wrote on this subject: How To Tell the Difference Between Your Ego, Logic, Spirit Guides and Intuition.
How can you learn to control your visions/premonitions/clarsentience, such as recurring ones happening only when touching a certain person/animal, that will fade when you ask questions instead of giving answers?
If you’re getting repeated visions or premonitions there’s obviously a strong warning in that. If something you’re seeing is going to come to pass you can either try to prevent it or you can get ready to deal with it. If you no longer want to receive the premonitions you’ll have to shut down your psychic radio and stop tuning in. That’s sometimes easier said than done, but maintaining control of when you get information and when you don’t is important. I had to learn how to stop receiving communication from my guides and deceased people when I wasn’t officially working. Now my guides can reach me in case of emergency or urgency or when I’m working. It takes a strong spirit to get my attention when I’m not working. It does happen but it’s rare now. Work with your guides. Tell them what you want and need. Sometimes I get a metaphor for someone that I just don’t understand and I ask the guides to give it to me again a different way. This is a two way street. Let them know what you want and what you can handle and ask them to ease off if you don’t like the kind of communication you’re getting.
Do you have a perspective on ‘protection’ – i.e. managing your field and energy both during sessions and when at parties or out and about like new year’s eve?
Great question. I was recently at a casino in the evening (rare for me) as I was going to a club to hear a comedian. I immediately realized I was way too open to be there comfortably. So many people walking around in a state of arousal, excitement, debauchery, alcohol … many of who had nefarious intentions. Just a lot of low vibration people (not to say everyone there was that way! Heaven’s no, but definitely a bunch of energies I don’t normally enjoy being around). So I had to close my “door” so to speak so I wouldn’t be affected by their energy. First, I closed up my chakras to be tighter in my body. So the size of an orange instead of the usual size of a basketball I’m used to. Then I had to close off my energy by erecting an energy shield around me. You know the kind I’m talking about, the one that says, “leave me alone” or “I’m not the droid you’re looking for. Move along.” With practice you can do this too.
When I’m working, it’s the opposite. I open my chakras very wide and connect them with the infinite divine. I only do this under the protection of my work environment – my White Room – and in the presence of my conduit guide, Bob. Managing energy is very important in life. If you’re too open in a room full of lower vibrational people, you can easily pick up on their energy and take it home with you, much like when I’m in a casino and come home wreaking of smoke even though I never touched a cigarette.
If someone is interested in becoming a psychic medium/intuitive counselor, what should they do on a daily/regular basis to achieve that goal? (besides meditate)
Connect with your conduit guide. Practice giving readings to friends and family. Get feedback on your methods. Then practice on total strangers. Keep refining your process until you’re very confident in your ability to tune in for anyone. Let your guides teach you as well. Raise your vibration and keep it high when you are working. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes; they will happen. Don’t be afraid of failure. Just keep working at it until you are comfortable with the results.
Do you have any new year’s resolutions?
No. Not sure I like the whole New Year’s Resolution thing, but I do like writing out my goals for the year, so I’ve already done some work on that. This year will be all about creating products, teleconferences, more videos, and maybe a workshop or two.
When you give a reading, has anyone ever had and shared a psychic hit on you? What is the etiquette for that sort of happening?
Do you mean that while I’m giving a reading someone gets information for me? Yes that has happened a few times. I do read for a lot of other psychics and mediums, some of them in training and some of them relatively famous. I also read for clients who are just really intuitive. And on occasion someone will tell me, usually at the end of the reading, some information they’re getting about me. I don’t mind receiving it, so I’m happy when that happens. I’ve also had very intuitive friends and colleagues send me impromptu information they’re getting about me. I like that too.
The other morning, not quite awake, I heard a woman’s voice call my name very distinct accent, I’m sure it was my spirit guide. How do I hear more, like answers to questions?
The time between sleeping and becoming awake is often a time when we pick up on snatches of conversation at another frequency. It could have been a spirit guide, or it could have been an auditory hallucination, or a hypnogogic hallucination. It’s a hard time to get answers to questions. I would work on lucid dreaming if you want to use your sleep time to communicate with your guides.
Could you ask your guides about free will? Say if you wanted to pray for the protection of someone or if you wanted to perform distance healing, would the angels/guides be limited in helping those people because the request doesn’t come from them directly?
Curses and prayers get through with equal effectiveness. They either bounce off someone’s aura or they impact. Whether it happens or not depends on the vibration and intention of the person receiving the curse or prayer or healing for that matter. You can accept or reject either “gift.”
If you have a reading that states a possibility for your future, but then a decision you make changes the ending, will the universe bring you back on track somehow?
Depends on whether you want it to or not and if you’re a vibrational match for the path you desire. Like you’ve correctly presupposed, you can change your future, it is not set in stone. If, during a reading, a psychic tells you something is likely to happen, you can take steps to alter that outcome. Just change course. If, however, you change course but you’re still a vibrational match for that thing happening, you could easily slip back into your old trajectory. At all times and in all ways you are responsible for the outcome of your decisions. So always think carefully as you move along the path.
Do you believe in Jesus?
Depends on your definition. I believe there is a highly conscious being (one of many actually) who incarnated on Earth to help remind us of who we really are. I’m not sure when he lived or how many times he’s been back since. I’ve encountered an energy on the other side that felt like the Christ energy to me, and it was quite humbling. When I think of Jesus, I think of the highly ascended consciousness. We are all One, so if you believe in Jesus I hope you look in the mirror and see him staring back at you. You have access to all of his wisdom and power.
Can psychic powers be gained with yoga and your views on Yogic siddhis?
Psychic powers could be accessed while you’re doing yoga, sure. Anything that puts you in a higher vibration or balances your mind, body or spirit will help you in the development of your psychic faculties. I don’t know what a Yogic Siddhi is, so I’ll defer to those who know more on that subject.
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