It’s the new year and resolutions are flying around like bees at a picnic.
“This year I’m going to lose 20 pounds.”
“This year I’m going to hit the gym every day.”
“This year I’m going to take off every weekend and spend it with family.”
“This year I’m going to stop watching television.”
You mean well. You’re resolute. But will you succeed in keeping your resolution? How many times have you made a New Year’s resolution and succeeded in keeping it? How many times did you fail or drop your resolution midway through the year or even the month of January?
What is the secret to making and keeping a New Year’s resolution? I’ll tell you.
You Have To Really Want It
Are you a vibrational match for your desire? If there is any aspect to your resolution that you don’t actually want, you will fail to achieve it. For example, maybe your resolution is to go raw for a year. Sounds good. Will help your health and you’ll probably lose some weight. But is there anything about going raw you don’t want? Perhaps you fear there’s too much food prep, not enough choices when you dine out, ridicule and derision from friends, loss of pleasure from cooked foods you used to eat, etc.
When you make a resolution you have to take the good with the bad. If you are not able to overcome the bad, you will fall out of vibrational harmony with your resolution and you’ll drop it.
You Have To Believe You Can Achieve It
So you’re a vibrational match for your resolution. Now, do you believe you can achieve it? Are you capable of doing what you’ve set out to do? Do you have the necessary skills, ability, time, commitment, resources, money, and/or support that you need to achieve it?
I had a friend a couple of years ago tell me his New Year’s resolution was to earn 82 million dollars that year. Mind you, he was unemployed and earning $500/month doing odd computer jobs here and there for people. I asked him if he believed he could earn $82 million in one year. He shrugged and said, “No, but I don’t have to believe it, I just have to ask for it and the universe will bring it to me. Right?” I replied, “Well, identifying your desire is important but you also must believe you can achieve it, otherwise you’re not going to be able to manifest it.” He was taken aback. I suggested he start with a financial goal he believed he could achieve.
It’s okay to dream big, as long as you believe you can achieve it. Otherwise your energy is going to send mixed signals to the universe. Start with a goal you believe you can achieve and feel the difference in power between that goal and one you don’t actually believe you can achieve. Stretch yourself, sure, but take on a goal you believe has a good chance of succeeding. Otherwise, get the necessary skills and resources in place to achieve it, then go for it.
You Have To Be Willing To Pay The Price To Get It
Are you willing to do what’s necessary to achieve your resolution? When you commit to something there are always consequences.
Going raw? Maybe you won’t be eating out with friends as often.
Hitting the gym every day? Maybe you won’t get as much sleep as you used to.
Losing 20 pounds? Maybe you’ll feel deprived sometimes.
Earning double your income? Maybe you’ll have less time to spend with family.
Traveling every weekend? Maybe you won’t be able to buy a house because you’re spending the money on travel.
Identify what it will cost you to keep your resolution, make sure you’re willing to pay the price, then pay it. If you’re not willing, find a new resolution because this one is doomed to failure.
Resolutions are great because there’s usually passion and power behind them. Sustaining resolutions can be difficult if you don’t really want the result, you don’t believe you can achieve it, or you’re not willing to pay the price to have it.
Several years ago Steve set a goal to exercise for at least 20 minutes every day of the year. He was a vibrational match for his desire, he was capable of achieving it, and he paid the price. He exercised when he was sick. He exercised when he was too tired. And he exercised even when he didn’t feel like it. That’s true resolve. And he achieved his goal.
What are you really resolved about? What will you devote yourself to accomplishing?