Answer: It can be super frustrating to desire to connect with a specific deceased relative and they never seem to show up to the party.

I recall reading for a gal and her dad was coming through really strongly. He told me his name, gave her some validation, and we were off and running. My client said, “Yeah, that’s my dad. He comes to every reading. He’s around all the time.” Meanwhile, she was frustrated because she also wanted to hear from her mother who never seemed to come through.

Why do some spirits always show up and others never come? There could be several reasons.

First, the deceased person may not want to come through. For whatever reason, they may simply not desire to communicate. That doesn’t mean they hate you. That doesn’t mean they can’t come through. That doesn’t mean they aren’t watching over you. Perhaps they don’t want to interfere in the course of your life. Perhaps they trust that you can get along without their guidance or interruption.

Second, the deceased person may not be able to come through. Deceased people don’t get to the other side suddenly able to speak energetically to a living person. It takes energy and finesse to communicate with the living. Your deceased loved one may not have figured it out yet. Give them time.

Third, the deceased may have disconnected. Some people cross over and are fully engaged with their new existence in the ether. They disconnect their energy from their old life and are simply done. They turn their attention in an entirely new direction. Don’t be insulted. You’ll understand when you reach the ether yourself that sometimes you stay emotionally connected with the living and sometimes you don’t.

Fourth, the deceased may be there but no one is hearing them. Sometimes the dead are jumping up and down around us, trying to get our attention, but we don’t detect them. It’s not easy. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Sometimes the medium is unable to get the right frequency. Sometimes the dead person is not transmitting in a way that the medium can pick up. If the medium is very clairsentient but the dead person is transmitting in a clairvoyant way, then the medium may be unable to detect the presence of the dead person. Keep trying with different mediums, or keep trying on your own.

I know it can feel very sad if you’re trying to get closure or reconnect with a loved one and they don’t seem to be there, but you don’t want to expend so much energy trying to communicate with a deceased loved one that you stop living your own life. This is why it’s vitally important to tell your loved ones how much you love them while they are still here.

In the meantime, send love to your dearly departed. They will receive it. Take comfort in knowing they are alright and that you’ll see them again when you reach the other side.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Technically you can, but I don’t recommend it.

First, a Ouija board is just a piece of wood with preprinted lettering on it. By itself, it’s not a problem. But Ouija board use can become a problem if you open a door and let the flies in while you’re trying to let in your guides.

Negative and low vibrational spirits often use a Ouija board to communicate messages designed to put you in a place of fear. And often people don’t realize they are being lied to by these spirits. So I would urge extreme caution before using the Ouija board to talk to your guides.

Try meditation or lucid dreaming. You can try automatic writing as well. Find your dominant intuitive modality and then use it to connect to your guides.

If you must use a Ouija board, make sure you are in a nice high vibration before using it. Make sure you protect yourself energetically, ask for ONLY your guides to attend you, and ask the angels to protect your session. Also do not use the Ouija board alone. Make sure someone else is using it with you, and that they too are at a high vibration.

It takes a lot of effort for a spirit to move the planchette around on the Ouija board. So start out by asking simple yes-no questions before you ask it to spell out entire paragraphs. The Ouija board is a slow and complicated way of talking to your guides which also carries risks. Be careful!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: I’ve done readings for people where their guides were pushing them pretty hard on a certain path, often leaving no time or energy for relationships or other things my client wanted in his or her life. As such, these guides were not nudging, plotting, or planning for my client to have a relationship, even though it was something my client dearly desired. In this case, I suggested to my client to bring in new guides who were on board with their plan. You can do this. But before you ask for new guides, make sure you know why your current guides are pushing or blocking.

You know that saying, “Before you tear down a fence find out why it was put up in the first place?” Same thing applies here. In the cases with my clients who had the snorty guides, their life purpose hinged greatly on their career path. So the guides were pretty pushy.

However, because of free will, we have the right to go down any path we desire, even if it’s destructive, and even if it’s against the design of our higher self. You just must accept the consequences of your actions. If you came here to be a world class quantum physicist who is going to discover something amazing and you derail yourself because you want love instead, then when you get back to the ether you’re probably going to kick yourself.

Now, now, that’s not to say a world class physicist can’t have love. But I’ve read for people who literally came here to accomplish something that will help the planet and a relationship really WILL derail them. Their guides know that, so their guides are not pushing in the direction of love.

The bottom line is if you want something in your life that you aren’t attracting, sometimes you can ask for a specific guide to come in and help you with that. It doesn’t mean firing your current guides. I wouldn’t do that unless it’s a dire situation. Ask the universe to bring you a guide whose job it is to bring you love. And see what happens.

Just do it while meditating, or speak it out loud at night before you go to bed. “Dear Universe, I want love in my life. Will you please assign me a guide who will help me find it. Thank you! You’re awesome. I love you. Goodnight.”

P.S. Don’t even try asking for Lottery Guides. No such thing. But you can ask for a guide to help you with your abundance or financial flow.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: On the other side there are no days, and we don’t have bodies, so definitely no eating, drinking, sleeping, or playing the harp.

Spirits on the other side do many things. They do “hang out” with other spirits they know. They commune with each other, share information, ideas, and philosophy.

Some spirits become spirit guides, so they actively work to help guide incarnated souls on their journeys.

Some spirits continue their “studies” on the other side, going to a sort of “school” as it would seem to us.

Spirits experience; anything and everything they want to. They travel the cosmos and meet other beings.

Some spirits help other spirits cross over. Some assist in the Akashic Records.

On the other side, we are energy, not matter, but we retain our consciousness. We look in on our loved ones, we plan our next life, and share our energy with others. It’s unlike our lives here in many ways, but it should be interesting for sure.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: When I connect with a deceased person during a reading I am always connecting with the persona that my client would recognize. So if Aunt Clara is coming through for my client, I’m connecting with the personality that was Aunt Clara in life. I am not connecting with Aunt Clara’s higher self.

I have never been looking for a deceased friend or relative and was presented with a person’s higher self instead.

So when does a person slough off the persona from their previous incarnation? I believe it varies by person. Sometimes a person “hangs on” to their old life because they are still emotionally connected to their living loved ones, or they are waiting for someone, like a spouse, to die so they can move on together. At some point every spirit lets go and merges back with their higher self.

I’ll bet it’s possible for a higher self to still come through as a previous persona, but I have never had that experience with a spirit.

No medium can guarantee contact with a specific deceased person. What I’ve noticed is sometimes I’ll bring a spirit through and my client will say, “Yep, he comes through every time I do a reading with a medium.” That’s a spirit who is still connected, hovering, and hanging around their loved ones. I’ve also had situations where a certain spirit never comes through no matter how many readings a person gets with a medium, and I suspect those spirits have disconnected and moved on.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Unless you are strong and practiced at psychic self defense, you should not open yourself up to a negative entity to communicate with it. It’s very dangerous. As soon as you tune in, the entity is going to “push” its energy onto you. If you’re not ready for it you could become influenced or possessed. If it’s a demon, you’re going to be in serious trouble. If it’s a low vibrational entity, you’re most likely going to need help shaking it off.

If you encounter a negative, low vibrational presence in someone’s home, ask it to go away, but without opening yourself up to hearing its story. Tell it that it must go, that it is not welcome, and that it should never come back. If it’s a demon, that may not be enough and you may need assistance from professionals who handle that sort of thing. But 99% of the time, it’s not a demon, it’s a ghost or a low vibrational entity from the astral plane.

Keeping your vibration high is critical when you’re around a negative presence.

If you are a medium or a psychic you could attempt to communicate with the entity but only if you have learned how to shield yourself while you do it. I have been in situations where I allow an entity to tell me its tale without warming up to it and letting it come inside for tea and cookies.

But as a cautionary tale, if you read the story of my paranormal investigation at the Amargosa Hotel, you’ll see how I ended up getting influenced by a low vibrational entity and how it really caught me by surprise. I was too tired, and too “nice” to it and it tried to get me to hurt my friends.

You may also want to ask yourself why there is a negative presence in your friend’s home and work with your friend to remove it.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Most of the time a person does not choose to reincarnate so quickly. I often hear of people who say, “My grandmother died last week and then my niece was born and we’re pretty sure it’s grandma!” Uh no. Highly doubtful. Most souls do not reincarnate to the same family or that quickly either. So chances are excellent that anyone you knew in this life will be waiting and available for you when you cross over.

However, I believe that even if someone has reincarnated before you cross over, you can still reconnect with their higher self, who is always in the ether, anchoring their “player” who goes back to earth for another round of death and taxes.

You will see your loved ones again when you die.

Check out my ebook, The Other Side, for more information about what happens in the afterlife.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Having recently gone through the death of a very close friend, I can really sympathize and understand why having communication with a deceased loved one suddenly becomes a matter of great urgency.

I believe that most deceased people are trying to visit the loved ones they left behind. Sometimes they are literally standing right next to you and you can’t detect them. It’s frustrating for the dead to be so close and yet so far.

So I would say your mother is already visiting you, you’re just not detecting her. To improve your ability to detect a deceased presence, you can try one or all of these ideas.

1. Pay attention to dreams. Deceased people love to come through in dreams because your barriers are down and you’re more likely to let them in. If you can lucid dream, try connecting with them there.

2. Meditate. Meditation will help you raise your vibration which is like meeting them halfway. You’ll be more likely to detect the presence of a deceased person if your vibration is as high as possible. I’ve got a nifty meditation you can use to connect with a deceased loved on in my audio program Raising Your Vibration.

3. Channel. Sit quietly in their old bedroom, hold an object of theirs that is energetically charged. Clear your mind and focus on their energy. Daydream about them. After a few minutes you may feel their presence, or smell their favorite perfume, or hear them talking to you in your mind, or see them with your mind’s eye. Let it come. Don’t chase it.

4. Be patient. Sometimes your grief acts as a barrier for contact. So it may just be a little while until they can get through to you. Be patient but know they are there. Even famous mediums sometimes wait months or years to get contact. It took me 3-4 months before I heard from a deceased ex-boyfriend.

5. Talk to a medium. I recommend waiting at least 6 weeks before talking to a medium. But if you get a good one, it can be extremely comforting to hear from your deceased loved one so that you know they made it safely to the other side.

6. Ask others. Often it’s other people that end up getting communication from the other side even if they weren’t as energetically connected to them as you were. So ask your friends and family if they are getting communication. Even if you long for contact yourself, it should still be comforting to hear from others that your loved one is okay and still thinking about you.

P.S. Read my ebook, The Other Side, for tons of information about what happens when we die.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Question: Do spirit guides know the future? – Jordyn

Answer: Yes and no.

Imagine you were flying above a maze and you could see all the little rats in the maze just running around looking for some cheese. The rats can’t see what’s around a corner, or whether they are heading for a dead end, or whether they are about to encounter another rat, but you can, because you can see the whole maze.

So you’re looking down at the maze and you see two rats who are on a trajectory towards each other. They can’t see each other at all, but you can easily see that in a few minutes, if they maintain their current course, they will bump into each other. So… can you see the future? Can you make a prediction? What if one rat stops running and turns around? Will they still run into each other? Will your prediction then be wrong?

You whisper into one rats ear, “Hey buddy, you’re going to run into the most beautiful little rat in about 3 minutes. Just keep on going.” The rat gets excited and, sure enough, in a few minutes, he runs into the rat of his dreams. But what if you whisper into the rat’s ear, “Hey buddy, you’re going to run into a cat if you keep going down this road.” And the rat says, “Oh hell no! I’m outta here,” and changes his direction?

The future is not set in stone, so the guides can’t “know” the future. However, their perspective gives them an advantage so sometimes it appears as if they are predicting when really they are just calculating the most likely outcome based on a current trajectory. Being able to tune in to your guides to get this information is worth the effort of learning how to hear them though.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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An earthbound spirit is one who chooses not to cross over when their physical existence ends. We are all given the opportunity to re-engage with Source when we die, but you don’t have to cross over if you don’t want to. You can resist the light and stay earthbound, half-way between living and dead, a disembodied spirit who is still attuned to this plane. So why would a soul choose to stay behind? The souls I have encountered during readings who have remained earthbound are here for a few reasons.

Some fear judgment.
If you believed you were going to Hell, like say for murdering someone, how fast would you want to get there? Perhaps you might want to slow down the process a bit or even stay off the grid so you can’t be sent there right? Some people fear God’s judgment so they resist the light and stay earthbound. To them, this is preferable to going to Hell. If Hell existed, I might agree with them, so it’s a real shame that some people remain earthbound instead of crossing over. There is nothing you could have done on this earth that would cause Source to turn its back on you. You will be forgiven if you can forgive yourself. This includes those who commit suicide.

Some have unfinished business.
I’ve encountered people who were murdered and are hanging around waiting to see if their murderer will be brought to justice. I’ve also seen family members hang out waiting for another family member to cross over. This is unnecessary but if the timing is close, I can see why people hang out.

Some aren’t aware they’re dead.
Believe it or not, there are spirits wandering around out there who aren’t clear on the fact that they’ve died. Your mind is powerful. If you die unexpectedly or you were extremely committed to living, it could take days or even weeks to get the clue. You could end up haunting your old haunts, hanging out in your old house, trying to get the attention of the living and wondering why they can’t hear you. If you ever find your spirit instantly severed from your body, it could take a little while to realize what’s happened. If you’re ever in a situation where you suspect you might be dead, try walking through a wall. If you can, you’re probably dead.

Some aren’t ready to go.
Some people cling to life as best they can because they simply aren’t ready to leave it. Sometimes people stay earthbound because they can’t leave their loved ones, such as children. This can also happen if you are extremely passionate about your life or simply having a fantastic time.

All of the above situations are unnecessary. When you actually do cross over, you are not judged and sent to Hell, you can still finish your unfinished business, and you can still watch over your loved ones from the other side. For those that are lost or unaware that they are dead, they do usually figure it out. If they don’t, a good medium can help cross them over.

The vast majority of people die and cross over just fine, so I don’t want you to worry that your loved one didn’t “make it” to the other side. People find their way there eventually. Guides and angels on the other side take care of our loved ones who are still earthbound and, when they are ready, these guides and angels help them cross over. If you are being haunted, find a medium and ask them to help you cross over an earthbound spirit.

Send love to your dearly departed
Those who have crossed over can still receive our loving thoughts and feelings. When you send love to the other side it goes there as a form of energy that they can receive. If it’s not too painful for you, think about your loved ones on the other side right now. Send them some love, a smile, or a thought you want to share. Let them know you’re thinking about them, and that you love them. Then sit back and see if you can see, hear, know, or feel their response. Although the distance may seem ridiculously great, the other side is actually not that far away at all. Your loved ones are really just a thought away.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Nothing in our conversation was scripted. You’re hearing the actual organic conversation we had. It’s not really interview style but it does lean in that direction. As such, we went all over the place with our topic as things came up. So in this podcast we talk about what I remember from before I was born, and we go into a discussion of astral projection, lucid dreaming, spirit guides, the future of our planet, and a lot more. We recorded this on his iphone so you’ll hear some shifting and some unusual audio sounds, but overall we felt the quality was good enough to share.

This is a free download. Just click on the link and the podcast should begin playing, or you can right click on it, save it, and play it using the media you prefer. It’s just over 27 minutes.

Podcast: What I Remember About the Ether by Erin Pavlina and Bron Johnson

Enjoy!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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This week’s question comes from Joe:

“Does thinking about deceased relatives hold them here?”

Transcript of the Video:
Hello and welcome to another episode of “Ask Erin Pavlina.” Today’s question comes from Joe. Joe writes, “Do we prevent deceased loved ones from being able to move on by thinking about them too often?”

Here’s what happens when you die. When you die, most people – the vast majority of people – cross over easily, quickly and well. Which means that they move on into the light, they have their crossing over experience, they’re greeted by loved ones on the other side and they’re happy bappy on the other side. There is a very, very, very small amount of people who resist crossing over and might stick around a little bit longer after they’ve died because they’re not ready to let go of the life they’ve had or because they fear judgment. They resist crossing over because they fear, perhaps, that they will be sent to hell or something like that. There is no hell except that which you make for yourself. So there is a very small – very small – percentage of people who do stick around a little longer than necessary.

What happens is when you’re thinking about your loved ones who have crossed over, for the most part there is no problem at all. They can receive your energetic communication. They know you’re thinking about them, they can hear you when you’re talking to them and they are not in any distress whatsoever and they are not being held back by your energy. The only caveat to this is the people who stick around because they fear judgment, or people who stick around because they’re afraid to cross over, or because they’re not ready to cross over. Then what happens is, when you think about them, it does kind of anchor them here a little bit, because they’re feeding off that energy to stay here instead of crossing over, and they’re so anxious to stay that your thoughts can anchor them to this plane.

Over time what happens is the angels come and help the person cross over completely. So, I wouldn’t worry too much about thinking about your loved ones. Always send them love. It’s great to be thinking about them. Like I said, the vast majority of people cross over easily, quickly and well. You don’t need to worry about anchoring them here. If you are in communication with somebody who you feel is really sticking around and that they have not crossed over for whatever reason, then you want to send them energy to help them cross over. You want to let them know it’s OK to cross over, that you’ll be OK without them, that there’s nothing to fear. That will help them cross over so they won’t be anchored here. I definitely suggest you do that if you feel like you’re in a situation where your deceased loved one may not be fully crossed over.

There’s no real way to know what stage they’re in, whether they’re crossed over or not, unless you have the ability to communicate with them clearly or you go to a medium who can help you determine where they’re at, but I don’t want you to sit there worrying that your loved one didn’t make it. Ninety-nine point nine percent of people cross over with no problem whatsoever. Even people who were in accidents, who were murdered or who suicided can easily cross over with no problem at all, so don’t worry about them. In general, continue to send loving thoughts to all of your deceased relatives on the other side and help them cross over and help them experience the joy of being on the other side. Good question.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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This week’s question comes from Jose:

“How can you capture EVP from ghosts?”

Transcript of the Video:
Hello and welcome to another episode of “Ask Erin Pavlina.” Today’s question comes from Jose. He writes, “What is the best way to entice a spirit to speak through an EVP while ghost hunting?”

Great question. First of all, EVP stands for Electronic Voice Phenomenon. Ghost hunters or paranormal investigators will take a digital voice recorder out into the field and they will ask questions of a spirit or of an area hoping that a spirit will answer. We would not be able to hear the answer with our human ears, but the digital voice recorders are able to pick up different frequencies than we are. I don’t know exactly how that works, but it does.

If you want to capture an EVP, there are some things that you want to do to enhance the likelihood that a spirit will be able to get through on one. Here’s what you need to do. First, whenever you’re trying to capture EVP, get everybody in your group to be quiet and still – as still as possible. Ask the question out into the air, preferably in an area you have identified as a hotspot, which would be a place where a spirit has been seen before or activity has occurred or where your EMF detector has detected energy. Get your digital voice recorder out. Make sure everybody in your group is very, very still and quiet and ask a question, “So-and-so, are you there? Is there a spirit present?” And then wait five or ten seconds with nobody talking, shifting or making any kind of noises. If anybody in your party makes a known noise, they should immediately identify it. “That was my stomach rumbling.” “That was my shoe squeaking.” So that later when you’re analyzing the data you don’t mistake that for spirit communication. So, be as quiet as possible.

You ask the question out into the air, and you wait five or ten seconds, and you ask another question and you keep doing that until you’re done with an area or until you’re done with questions. You probably will not hear anything with your physical ears, but later when you’re going through the recording you may pick up something. It’s not always easy to interpret what comes through.

Another thing that I would suggest: Know what kind of spirit you’re dealing with. If you’re in an area where there’s a very mean, nasty, murderous spirit or if the spirit was very mean and angry in life, sometimes the best way to get them to come through is to agitate them. You want to get your strongest character in your group to call them out, “Hey, I don’t believe in you. We don’t think you exist. You got nothin’.” And that usually is enough to get some activity going. Be very careful with that, because sometimes there are consequences in agitating a negatively charged spirit.

If you’re in an area where you’re dealing with a spirit who was probably more gentle and kind and caring when they were alive, then I would suggest doing something a little different. I would calm the energy of everybody in your group, make sure everybody is in a good place, maybe even do a meditation. Raise everybody’s vibration. Create an environment that’s going to make it easier for a spirit to come through and communicate. Spirits do not have physical bodies on the other side, so they don’t have vocal cords. It’s very difficult for them to form sentences and put that through energetically and electronically so that it’s picked up as an EVP. It really is asking quite a bit for you to ask the spirit to speak in phrases and sentences. You’ll be lucky if you get one or two words out out of them. It’s very difficult for them, but it does happen and you want to be open to it when it does.

Try to get your EVP in a nice quiet place where nobody in your party is talking and that will definitely increase your chances of getting some good results. Good luck and happy ghost hunting.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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This week’s question comes from John. He asks:

“Who am I connecting with during a tarot card reading?”

Here is a transcription of the video:

Hello and welcome to another episode of Ask Erin Pavlina. Today’s question comes from John. He writes: “In a tarot card reading who or what is answering the question and how can you tell if the guidance coming through is high vibration or low vibration and fear-based?” This is an excellent question.

I myself do not read tarot cards, but this question really applies to anybody who is using their intuitive abilities to give people advice. When you tune in to do any kind of intuitive reading or any kind of intuitive work, and you’re asking for guidance and trying to connect with somebody on the other side who can help you, it is vital to make sure you’re getting information from a high vibration source. Vital! So the answer is when you’re doing a tarot card reading, or any kind of reading, you could be tuning in to something that is high vibration or something that is low vibration. It’s really up to you to figure out and make sure you’re connecting with something that is high vibration.

So how can you tell? First of all you should always put yourself into a high vibrational state before you open yourself up to do any kind of intuitive reading. So if you’re just sitting at the Ouija board or you start flipping over tarot cards and you haven’t done a meditation or something to get your vibration high, then you’re playing with fire and you might connect with something that isn’t going to be serving your highest good. So the first thing to do is to raise your vibration until you feel like you’re in a really good place and you’re in a nice sacred state.

Once you’re in a high vibrational state, then you want to invite a spirit guide, or being, to you that will help answer your questions. How can you tell if the information coming through is good or fear-based? Basically, by the type of information coming through. Anything that is fear-based is going to try to put you in a state of fear or may even make threats, like “if you don’t do this, you’re never going to succeed” or “if you don’t do this, you’re going to die.”

So sometimes you get entities that will try to scare you or put you in a state of fear because that’s what they feed off of. A high vibrational being will always come from a place of love and encouragement and support. They will not berate you, they will not threaten you and they will not try to put you in a state of fear. They will help you navigate the maze of your life. They won’t tell you what to do but they’ll make some suggestions on what will make you happy. You’ll know inside if that clicks for you and if that resonates with you.

So yours is a very very important question. Please make sure that before you sit down and do anything intuitive and before you open yourself up, make sure you are in a high vibrational place so that you know that you are pulling in a high vibrational entity. Then just watch the information that’s coming through and make sure that it’s good and loving and supportive, and not fearful and threatening. Great question!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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This week’s question comes from Laura. She asks:

“What is channeling and can anyone do it?”

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Hello and welcome to another episode of “Ask Erin Pavlina.” Today’s question comes from Laura. She writes, “Can you explain what channeling is, and is that something anyone can do or does it require a certain natural ability?”

Ok, there are three ways to channel. Channeling is basically when you are tuned into a being that is on a higher vibration or a higher plane with the intention of receiving information that’s going to help you with your life. That’s really all channeling is. It’s getting information outside of yourself. So there are three kinds of channeling. The simplest form of channeling is to use your own intuition to tune into your helpers on the other side. For example, your spirit guides or your higher self, angels and maybe even deceased relatives. In this way you do like a meditation and you get in tune with your guides or other people on the other side. And you ask them questions that were designed to give you insight and wisdom into your life path. So that would be – you are completely conscious of what’s happening and you’re completely in control and you’re the one asking all the questions. And then maybe you write down the information that you’re getting so that you can remember it later. The next level up from that would be allowing an entity or a higher vibrational being to sort of step into your body and to use your vocal chords to communicate and express information that is designed to help you or potentially other people who might be in the room. When you do this level of channeling you have to get to a very high vibration and you have to give permission for some higher vibrational being or beings to use your body to communicate, but in this kind of channeling you are aware of what’s happening and you’re sort of just pushed back in your own brain or your own psyche and you’re letting the channeling information come through, but you’re capable of stopping it at any time, and you remember everything that you have stated.

At the highest level of channeling would be trance channeling. And that is when you have agreed to completely step out of your body to let the other beings in and they use your body and your vocal chords and your hands to communicate their messages usually to a group. In this case you will have no memory of anything that you’ve said because you’re not there. You have completely stepped aside and vacated your body in favor of allowing them to use your body to communicate. A good example of that is Esther Hicks who channels Abraham, which is a collective consciousness that gives a lot of wisdom to a lot of people. So there are really sort of three levels.

Can anyone channel? Yeah. You can certainly – definitely – connect to your own guides at any time, that first level of channeling we talked about. You can tune into your guides and get information that will help you with your life and give you wisdom and insight. Everybody can do that with a little practice. The next level up where you allow something to overtake your body while you’re still aware– it’s possible. It’s possible for most people to do that, I don’t know that I’d recommend that because as soon as you start giving up control of your body you run into a situation where whatever you’ve invited in may not want to leave so quickly. So, in the second case that I mentioned, it would be a lot easier to push the entity out if you didn’t want it connecting with you, but still it’s not something that I would dabble with or play with unless you can get yourself to a super high vibration and make sure you bring in the protection of your angels and your guides to make sure you’re not taken advantage of by any kind of entity.

At the highest level – the trance channeling – I do not recommend doing that unless you are extremely well-versed in how to raise your vibration and how to handle any kind of entity that comes through. A lot of people recently that I know have attempted to communicate and channel with beings on the other side and it’s a very cool thing to do and you get a lot of interesting information, but some of them have not reached a high enough level of vibration in order to bring in a high enough – a highly vibrating entity. And that’s very dangerous because if you are channeling something that is of a lower vibrational frequency, you’re going to get information from them that could even be destructive to your life. These would be entities that want to put you in a state of fear, that would make threats, and would not want you to be happy, because they feed off the fear. So, I have seen that happen to some people. They’re channeling, but they’re channeling entities that are not healthy. Let’s put it that way. So it’s not something you want to dabble in but that first level I talked about – tuning into your own guides – is definitely a good idea. You can get a lot of good insights and wisdom from that. So I do recommend that. Hope that answers your question.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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