From ages 15 to 18, I used to astral project on average 3-4 times per week. I was a total master of the ability. It was second nature to me. As I grew older, I set aside my astral traveling as I got more focused on college, then marriage, family, and career. After projecting an estimated one thousand times in my youth, it was no longer a priority and it didn’t command my attention anymore. I’d still project upon occasion, but not more than a half dozen times a year.

Nowadays I spend my nights lucid dreaming instead of projecting. And I spend my days doing intuitive readings for people all over the world, including often connecting with people’s deceased relatives during readings.

And now you have the background to understand the experience that happened to me last Sunday. It was Mother’s Day, and my son got up early because he wanted to make me breakfast in bed. After I ate, I decided to go back to sleep, something I can never do during my busy work week raising two kids by myself. But it was Mother’s Day and no one needed me for anything, so I decided to treat myself.

I laid down and fell asleep within just a few minutes. Ah, the peace, the luxury, the gift!

But peace was not to be mine. I’m not sure how long I was asleep before I woke up in the state of sleep paralysis, which is a precursor to astral projection. Awesome! I thought to myself. I’m going to take this opportunity to astral project and go have some fun.

I initiated the separation which includes an intense tingling sensation within my body. Once I had my astral body “activated” I was ready to move out and go enjoy a nice trip. But as soon as I separated I came face to face with a group of maybe a dozen beings that were standing by my bed.

They were not negative low vibration beings. They were people. Dead people. Their spirits were literally lined up around me. I’d never experienced this before. In the past when I encountered other beings, they were either negative entities or they were high vibrational guides. These were humans who had once lived.

Before I knew what was happening, one of them made contact with me. I was catapulted into his story. He showed me that he had taken his young daughter hunting with him. She looked about 7 or 8 years old. It was her first trip. Long story short, she accidentally shot him and he died. The girl was devastated and grew up with tremendous shame, guilt, and sadness. His message to his daughter was one of profound forgiveness, and he was desperate for me to find her in life and tell her that he does not hold anything against her, and that he is sorry he couldn’t be there for her growing up. I was touched by his love for his daughter, and the urgency with which he was wanting me to find her.

During readings, I have contact just like this during readings. Dead people with urgent messages will come forward and relay messages through me to their loved ones. But I’d never experienced this direct contact before. On their turf. In their realm. As an energetic spirit like them.

I pulled away from the spirit, and another one jumped in with his story. He was in a situation where his wife thought he’d ran off on her and the kids, when in actuality he drowned and his body was never found. He was desperate for her to know he hadn’t left her, but had died accidentally. It was heartbreaking.

As I pulled away from this guy, I put some space between me and the other spirits lined up to “speak” with me. I knew that if I stayed there, they would all want their turn to tell me their story. It’s not that I didn’t want to hear their stories, it was just that I was overwhelmed with their energy and I needed to regroup and get some distance.

I put myself back in my body and got up out of bed. I wondered whether there are always spirits around me trying to get messages to their families, or if they were attracted by me going astral and swarmed me like moths to a flame.

It has occurred to me that perhaps I could tune in to them even when I’m not officially reading for someone, just to get their stories and see if I can find their loved ones. It’s probably more time and effort than it’s worth, but if the opportunity arises again, I might just take it.

And the next time I project, I’ll be ready for the line up.

When I first got these emails, years ago, it distressed me. I wrote back to people to try to explain myself and why I felt I wasn’t going to Hell. It didn’t really matter. Most of the people used fake email addresses and didn’t want to get a response. Those that did, would just come back with longer Bible passages and more evidence that I was in league with Satan.

I realized they were the ones with the problem, not me.

So I started sending back joke answers. “No, I don’t work for Satan, he offers no health insurance and I hear he fires people all the time.” Most people weren’t amused by my clever rejoinders.

Recently a guy wrote to me and was very worried about my soul. I’m touched, honestly, that people want to make sure I’m going to Heaven. He told me the voices I think I’m hearing are really satanic demons who are tricking me. I wrote back to him and said, “So these demons that I’m communicating with, they want me to help suicidal people find a reason to live? They want to help find missing people? They want people to live these really happy lives, become encouraged, inspired, and motivated to do wonderful things on this planet? Because that’s what they’re doing.”

He was quiet for a while. But he wrote back a few days later and said, “Oh, I didn’t realize that’s what you did with your abilities. It does seem odd that Satan would want you to help so many people. I’ll have to think about that. Maybe he wants them to be happy now so he can hurt them more later.” Yeah, maybe it’s a big old setup. Never heard from that guy again.

Then a few days ago a woman emailed and told me she was cruising my site and was loving the articles because I talk a lot about compassion, helping others, oneness, love, and connection, and she really resonated with that. But she was distressed because she couldn’t see any articles where I mentioned that Jesus was my Lord and Savior. She wanted to make sure I knew that if I didn’t accept Jesus as my Lord and Savior that I was going to Hell.

So I wrote back to her and told her I appreciated her words and her sincere desire to help me. I let her know that God’s gift has allowed me to assist others, bring comfort, and help them be happier. She responded, “But you still haven’t mentioned Jesus.” I responded with, “So if I don’t expressly mention Jesus, then all this good work I’m doing to help others is going to land me in Hell? Do you think God is angry that I’m using this gift to save people’s lives? Should I stop?”

She said, “Unless you praise Jesus, you and your site are just satanic, and you will not be saved. You clearly worship Satan and all those articles you’ve written and all those people you’ve helped were really helped by Satan.”

So I sent her one last email that said, “Well how do I know you’re not Satan disguising yourself as a Christian in order to get me to stop doing God’s work?” I never heard back from her.

When you think about it, though, it makes a lot more sense that these folks who write to me are actually the demons working for Satan. They are trying to stop me from helping others. They’re trying to prevent me from bringing people out of dark places and into the light. And they have even threatened to kill me in the name of their Lord.

I don’t know about you, but I think that’s pretty dark stuff. I wonder what Jesus would think.

If a spirit decides to linger, they will often “hang out” in their home, or where they died, or around loved ones. This can result in a haunting, which sounds worse than it is, because most spirits are benign. Occasionally you’ll get a nasty spirit who wants to harm you or scare you, but most often they’re just lingering, hoping for connection, or hoping to stay out of hell (can’t blame them for that, although there is no real hell so it’s a real shame they feel the need to hover).

So what can you do? Is there a way to help a spirit cross over into the light, into the warm loving embrace of Source, where they will merge back with Love? Yes there is.

Untimely Death
Someone who dies unexpectedly often can’t let go right away. Perhaps they have unfinished business. Perhaps they feel they need to get a message to a loved one before they cross over, believing that once they cross over they won’t be able to make contact.

If this is the type of lingering spirit you’ve got, then your best bet is to give them their say. If you know how to communicate with the dead, tune in and let them tell you what they need to tell you. I’ve had spirits tell me where their will is, what their computer password is for their family, and the name of their murderer. If you are not skilled in this, contact a good medium and see if he or she can channel a message for you. If you want to communicate on your own, develop your intuitive modalities, learn to lucid dream, or raise your vibration and meditate your way into a conversation with them.

Once they feel they’ve been heard, they will cross over.

Death by Suicide
When people take their own life, often they feel regret, guilt, or shame once it’s done. Some don’t feel they deserve to be in “heaven” so they keep themselves here. Some carry with them such a strong feeling of remorse, that they just can’t go on. They stick around, beseeching their loved ones for understanding and forgiveness, and sometimes there is unfinished business as well.

If this is the type of spirit lingering around you, send them forgiveness and understanding as best you can. Maybe that can’t happen right away, but the spirit needs to know it’s okay to move on and that you forgive them. Use the same methods described above to connect with them.

Once they feel forgiven they often cross over.

Murderers
One of the most common spirits that linger are those that fear they are going to hell. They know they’ve done wrong and can’t imagine being forgiven. Unfortunately, when they linger it’s usually not a good thing. Their fear, anger, and guilt can cause them to become mean and nasty while in limbo. Their energy is often dark, low and negative. This may manifest in ways that scare you or can even harm you. You want to get them unattached from you or your location as soon as possible.

For this type of spirit, I don’t really recommend talking to them if you don’t have experience with psychic self-defense or mediumship. It can turn ugly on you real fast. Contact a paranormal investigation team, or a medium experienced with these types of spirits and leave it to them. Otherwise you risk losing a lot of your energy as they siphon it away from you, or of anchoring them to your location, or attaching them to your person. It’s no good any way you slice it.

If you are a medium
If you are a medium and are called in to help cross over a spirit, the first thing you want to do is make contact with them. It’s helpful if you have a member of their family present who can help you verify what the spirit is telling you.

Once you’ve established communication, pass along any messages from them to their family and vice versa. Sometimes a conversation is all they need to release their hold on this life. If no family is present, then reassure the spirit that you will pass along the messages if you can, or if there is no family you can connect with, then simply listen and reassure them that they no longer need to worry about what’s going on here, and that they can safely and comfortably release and cross over.

Most often a spirit will be happy to let go and move on. If you connect with a spirit who stubbornly refuses to cross over, especially one that is bothering a family or person or location, then you’ll have to call in the big guns. Ask archangel Michael to assist you by either escorting the spirit across the threshold or by offering a shield to the family or location so that the spirit can’t bother them anymore. Be sure you advise the family how to prevent themselves from unwittingly inviting the spirit back.

Bottom Line
You can talk to anyone who has crossed over and they will hear you. You can talk to them out loud or telepathically, as long as you’re thinking about them hard and directing your energy at them, they will receive the message. You may not always hear them back if you don’t know how to tune in to energy from the other side, but at the very least you can rest assured knowing they DO hear you. Send reassurance, love, forgiveness, and compassion to those who linger. It’s in everyone’s best interest for those that have died to cross over fully.

I wrote back to her immediately and wanted to share what I told her in case someone else reading this is in a similar situation and wants to know what happens to their baby when it crosses over, and also whether they will see their child again.

When you cross over, you are greeted by loved ones. That includes your baby. But you must also understand that your baby isn’t a baby on the other side. When we incarnate, we are born into a tiny body, but our souls are actually fully grown so to speak. And when a baby dies, although its body is small, it’s spirit is fully mature. When that soul reaches the other side, it does not stay in baby form. It reverts back to a fully mature conscious energy.

Your child is not a helpless, small person on the other side. I know it might be hard to imagine them any other way since that’s the only way you knew them. Similarly, our grandparents are not old and frail on the other side either. People who were once physically or mentally disabled are no longer so on the other side. Once the body is sloughed away, the soul itself is a vibrant, energetic, fully conscious, and intact being.

When you get to the other side, you will be greeted by the soul of the child you lost, and it will not appear as an infant. You will recognize it immediately though, so don’t be concerned about that.

I hope it brings you comfort to know that your child is intact and capable on the other side. In fact, often our children are even more evolved souls than we are. Do not fear for them or worry that they are not being taken care of. They need none of the care that a human baby would need while here on Earth.

I know it doesn’t remove the sorrow and the longing, but I hope it helps a little to know that they are just fine on the other side and that you will indeed see them again.

The Grief is Too Powerful
Grieving sends a beacon of energy into the ether. It’s like a wail. It’s analogous to the sound a microphone makes when there is too much feedback. You almost have to cover your ears. For a deceased person to communicate through that is almost painful.

The Grief is Too Raw
Losing a loved one opens an energetic wound. It’s like a tearing of the energetic cord that existed between the two of you. You’ve got to let the “bleeding” subside before you try to make contact. Otherwise it’s like trying to type after losing half your fingers.

The Deceased Sometimes Aren’t Capable
Just because you’ve crossed over doesn’t mean you know how to communicate with the living. When a deceased person reaches the other side a lot is happening. There’s a life review, a greeting of loved ones, a shift and understanding about who and what we really are, and a time of reflection. While they absolutely are aware of the sadness and grief of their living loved ones, they can’t simply pick up an ethereal phone and start communicating. It takes time and skill to be able to communicate with a medium. Let them get their bearings and learn how to make contact. 3 months is a reasonable time for this. The first week after a passing is not. You risk them not being able to communicate with the medium which is a waste of time, money, and energy.

And there’s one other reason I suggest waiting 3 months to make contact. Let’s go back to the woman who wanted her reading immediately after her boyfriend’s death. After I explained to her the reasons why it’s not a good idea to attempt contact so soon, she insisted she wanted to do it anyway. I relented, but set her appointment for the 3 week mark after his passing, hoping it would be enough time. Sometimes if I can’t reach a specific deceased person, I can still get helpful information about them from the spirit guides who are masters at communicating with psychics and mediums. I warned her that he might not come through, but we would try. She was happy for the opportunity.

When the day of the reading came, he came through loud and clear. He gave me enough validating evidence to pass on to her that she knew for sure we were talking to the right guy. She immediately began sobbing, her grief wound ripping open and tearing again. She was beside herself. I wanted to reach through the phone and give her a hug but couldn’t.

She poured out her heart to him through me. She wasn’t sleeping or eating. She wasn’t going to work. She wasn’t functioning. She wanted him back. She wanted to know why he died so suddenly and so young, (if I recall he was in his late twenties). She wanted him to know she would never forget him, that she would always love him, and that she couldn’t wait to be with him again on the other side.

And then it happened. He told her he was very happy where he was, and although he loved her very much, he didn’t want her to stop living just because he was dead.

My client immediately grew angry. “What?!?!” she exclaimed. “He’s HAPPY he’s dead? He’s happy while I’m sitting here dying inside? He’s happy we’re not together anymore? He’s happy while I’m miserable? That son of a bitch!”

She stopped crying and started to seethe instead. “Why the heck am I sitting here crying all day, unable to eat, if he doesn’t even care?!?!”

I had to intervene so she understood a very important truth, and this is one I want you all to hear and understand.

99.99% of people who die are supremely happy once they reach the other side. Let me make this clear, they are at peace, they are back Home, they are back to Love and Source. They are in an ultimate state of bliss. They have released all their own anger, fear, sadness, grief, shame, guilt, anxiety, and in many cases physical suffering. Damn right they’re happy.

But that doesn’t mean they don’t care about their loved ones still here. They absolutely do. They care very much, but they are not sad, angry, frustrated, and bereft like you are.

And this is very important to hear as well. Dead people don’t want you to be sad. They want you to be happy. They want you to live your life. More than anything else, they don’t want their passing to cause you to stop living.

I’ve never connected with a deceased person who said, “Tell her I want to see more tears. She ain’t crying enough. And tell her she has no business going back to work yet when she really needs to buy me more candles for that nifty altar she built me.” It’s never happened.

Deceased people look upon us with a mixture of frustration and a strong desire to tell us how beautiful life can be. When you get to the other side you immediately remember how this all works. You remember that you chose to be here. You chose to play and have fun.

So back to my client… I explained a lot of this to her. “It’s not that he doesn’t care that you’re suffering, in fact he hovers around you trying to comfort you and help you understand that he’s just fine and wants you to be happy as soon as possible. He loves you very much and nothing would make him happier than if you were able to go on to have a beautiful life, get married to an awesome guy, settle down and have children. Your grief is unnecessary but he completely understands why you feel it. He simply can’t share the grief you’re feeling because he is completely fine and okay with how everything is.”

She calmed down a bit and said to me, “I never really considered any of this. I mean… if he’s okay and he’s happy, then I don’t really need to keep grieving for him. In fact, I’m relieved to know he’s doing so well. I figured he was as upset as I was.”

I said, “At first, when he first crossed over, he was confused because it was so unexpected. But his angels and guides explained everything to him and he understood and accepted it fairly quickly. He loves you, and cares about you, and always will. You will see him again. But until then, you must get back to living. You have your own adventure to play out.”

By the time we ended the call, I could tell that a large part of her grief was gone. She thought she was supposed to rail against his death, to stop until the world gave him back to her. Instead I gave her a prescription. “Talk to him and tell him about your day, but not from your bed. Talk to him while you pick up the pieces and move forward. Talk to him about the joys you still have, and the hopes and dreams you still carry. Tell him you love him but that you will eventually open your heart to meeting another man. All he wants is for you to live a happy life. Honor him by doing just that.”

So the main reason I ask people to wait at least 3 months before trying to communicate with a deceased loved one is because by that time the sting is usually gone and you’ve begun to rebuild your life without them. You’re more open to knowing that they are happy on the other side. It won’t offend you so much.

I know it’s difficult to lose someone you love. I lost my dear friend Pam more than a year ago and I think of her almost every day, missing her wise counsel, and her caring support of me. But I know she wouldn’t want me to stop living just because she is gone. I know she wants me to live my life to the fullest.

Your loved ones feel the same. Your sadness will fade with time. You’ll never forget them, and you will see them again one day. In the meantime, go make the years count. Live your life. Fully and happily.

You are here to shine your light, to be a beacon. You are not here to chase people down and force your light upon them.

Some will be attracted to your light, and some won’t. It is not your job nor your responsibility to seek followers.

Just be a beacon, and those who want to step into the glow of your light will.

There is nothing for you to do. Your job is to be. Be who you are at your core. Remember who you really are, and be that person.

All of your actions will stem from your inner light.

When you are in alignment with all that you are, then all your actions will be so aligned. And those who are attracted to your light will receive benefit.

As you struggle to define yourself, to figure out what you’re supposed to do, try to remember that much of this world was crafted by those who have forgotten their higher selves. What you see in the world today is in many ways a contrast to what it could be.

The more you can remember who you really are, and the more you can align yourself with that person, the more change you will see in the world, because it will be a reflection of your higher self.

The world today is a reflection of the light we are casting. Is your light casting fear or is it casting love?

As you beacon, so shall the world be. So be a beacon. But be a beacon of your highest self.

Awaken to your light. Remember who you really are. And love.

Fast forward to a dark and gloomy Monday in October. I’d received some very bad and upsetting news about the health of a family member. I was sad, stressed, and upset.

Then I got into an argument with someone close to me. The day was quickly falling into the abyss of days you just want to leave behind you as fast as possible.

During lunch I decided to listen to the music my friend had sent me.

And something really amazing and powerful happened.

Before I knew it, I had slipped into a higher frequency. My vibration raised to a place of love, peace and gratitude. My body tingled.

I started to spontaneously move into a clairaudient state. I made contact with a group of celestial beings. And we had a conversation.

Then I channeled a message about manifesting that which you desire and released it on my blog.

In just minutes I went from a low vibration to one of the highest vibrations I’ve ever achieved.

I called my friend immediately and said, “What the heck is in this music?”

He laughed and explained he’d created the tracks using amplitude modulation, a highly advanced form of brain entrainment, more effective, easier on the ear and brain, and more convenient than the traditional binaural beats (no need for headphones). This helps put you in those higher vibrations. I told him how awesome it was, and I asked him if he’d be willing to let me offer this to my readers. He said yes.

I am so excited to be able to offer you this music. You can use it to meditate, increase your psychic abilities, relax, raise your vibration, etc. Just don’t listen to it while driving or operating heavy machinery!

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When you hope for something, you are telling the universe you do not have it but wish you did. This sends a mixed signal to the universe and keeps you in a place of hoping instead of having.

If you wish to create or manifest something in your life, you must put yourself in the vibration you will be in when having that thing is no longer something new, but something you have lived with for a long time.

In other words, if you desire peace, feel the vibration of having lived with peace for a long while. If you desire a higher standard of living, put yourself in the state of having lived in that place for a long while. If you desire a loving partner, put yourself in the state of having been with this partner for a long while.

When you first manifest a desire, sometimes you are excited. But when you’ve lived with what you desire for a long time, it becomes normal for you. It is in that state of normal that you must live in order to manifest your desire.

Think of something now that is normal for you. Perhaps it is going to your job. Perhaps it is waking up next to the person you love. Perhaps it is making breakfast for your child in the morning. You do not have to desire these things. You do not have to hope for these things, because these things are already manifest in your life, and you are living in a vibration that continues to attract those things.

Do the same for that which you do not currently have. Imagine how you would feel if you had what you desire, but imagine how it would feel if you’d had what you desired for a long while. Would it be exciting or would it feel like an everyday occurrence?

Hold the vibration every day of living in a place of having all that you desire.

Do not hope for that which you want. Be in the state of having that which you want. The longer and stronger you can hold that vibration the more quickly and easily it will manifest.

The universe cannot bring you something you cannot hold. There will be no place for it in your life. It will slip through your fingers. Show the universe that you have a container ready for that which you desire.

Spend time each day in this vibration of having – in this vibration of it being normal. Then it will manifest. You are powerful creators. You create with your vibration and nothing is withheld from you.

Who are they? Why are they there? And is there any way to know when one is around?

I’m talking about an array of beings on the other side, connected to you with bonds of love and emotion that are strong, caring and supportive. Angels. Spirit guides. Deceased loved ones. They’re all there.

I see angels around people who are going through a particularly rough time physically or emotionally. During readings if I see an angel around my client I know they have gone through a devastation or are even suicidal. Often the client has lost a child or a loved one recently. The angels are there to hold you when you feel like falling and giving up. You may not see or feel them, but they are there. They are the most powerful beings I see around people and they radiate pure love. It’s beautiful.

Your spirit guides are always with you. They are there guiding, nudging, and supporting you in life. While not as powerful as angels, your guides never leave your side, whereas I tend to only see angels when my client is going through devastation.

Your guides are broadcasting wisdom, support, insights, and directions to help you navigate the maze of your life. If you can get to the point where you can communicate with them, you will be able to receive their wisdom all the time.

When you are going through a rough time, your guides kick into high gear to try to bring solace, comfort, and change to your life. So where an angel is holding your energy to keep you from falling off the ledge, the guides are out there trying to find you the softest place to land.

Now what about your deceased loved ones who have crossed over? The people who loved you in life often stick around and hover a bit, especially when you’re going through a tough time. Not all spirits do this, but some do stay connected to those they left behind, offering a supportive thought, a virtual hug, and sometimes warnings and advice.

I had an interesting experience with this recently myself. I received some bad news and was feeling very sad. That night my deceased friend, Pam, who died in 2011, came to me in a dream. I’ve only seen her in my dreams maybe half a dozen times since she died, but there she was. In the dream we talked about the news I’d received, but then she showed me every time over the past year that she had been by my side. It was awesome. It was one scene after another where she showed me how she was holding me, comforting me, and trying to tell me everything would be okay. Although I have felt her energy around me many times in the past year, I’m not sure I noticed each and every time she came to me with supportive energy.

The next time you’re going through an emotional crisis or suffering physically, open your senses and try to detect the energies offering you comfort. They are right there, standing next to you, arms open, ready to catch you, hold you, and comfort you. You’re never truly alone. Even when you can’t see them, there are helpers nearby offering you support.

Let their love comfort you when you need it. Let it fill you with hope. Let it guide you to a more positive outcome. Thank these helpers for being with you, and feel their energy. Send them gratitude and their energy will expand. Work together when you can, and let them completely support you when you’ve got nothing left. You’re in good hands.

Answer: Spirit guides are non-corporeal entities who have agreed to assist one or more people who have incarnated. The job of a guide is to nudge here and there, inspire, and support human beings as they navigate the maze of life. Spirit guides are selected because of their ability to do this work effectively.

Some spirit guides have had human incarnations, some haven’t. Some guides are more ascended than others.

So is it possible to become a spirit guide? Yes. When you cross over and land on the other side you may be tapped to become a guide for another. It’s an important duty. Just like any job, the more qualified you are to guide, the more likely you will be “hired” by someone’s higher self to be a guide.

On a slightly related note, you could even be tapped to be someone’s guide here on Earth while YOU are still in human form. For more information on that, read this article: Spirit Guides at Starbucks