Answer: It can be super frustrating to desire to connect with a specific deceased relative and they never seem to show up to the party.

I recall reading for a gal and her dad was coming through really strongly. He told me his name, gave her some validation, and we were off and running. My client said, “Yeah, that’s my dad. He comes to every reading. He’s around all the time.” Meanwhile, she was frustrated because she also wanted to hear from her mother who never seemed to come through.

Why do some spirits always show up and others never come? There could be several reasons.

First, the deceased person may not want to come through. For whatever reason, they may simply not desire to communicate. That doesn’t mean they hate you. That doesn’t mean they can’t come through. That doesn’t mean they aren’t watching over you. Perhaps they don’t want to interfere in the course of your life. Perhaps they trust that you can get along without their guidance or interruption.

Second, the deceased person may not be able to come through. Deceased people don’t get to the other side suddenly able to speak energetically to a living person. It takes energy and finesse to communicate with the living. Your deceased loved one may not have figured it out yet. Give them time.

Third, the deceased may have disconnected. Some people cross over and are fully engaged with their new existence in the ether. They disconnect their energy from their old life and are simply done. They turn their attention in an entirely new direction. Don’t be insulted. You’ll understand when you reach the ether yourself that sometimes you stay emotionally connected with the living and sometimes you don’t.

Fourth, the deceased may be there but no one is hearing them. Sometimes the dead are jumping up and down around us, trying to get our attention, but we don’t detect them. It’s not easy. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Sometimes the medium is unable to get the right frequency. Sometimes the dead person is not transmitting in a way that the medium can pick up. If the medium is very clairsentient but the dead person is transmitting in a clairvoyant way, then the medium may be unable to detect the presence of the dead person. Keep trying with different mediums, or keep trying on your own.

I know it can feel very sad if you’re trying to get closure or reconnect with a loved one and they don’t seem to be there, but you don’t want to expend so much energy trying to communicate with a deceased loved one that you stop living your own life. This is why it’s vitally important to tell your loved ones how much you love them while they are still here.

In the meantime, send love to your dearly departed. They will receive it. Take comfort in knowing they are alright and that you’ll see them again when you reach the other side.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: In my best Morpheus voice, “Do you think that’s air you’re breathing? Hmm.” Time does not exist over there the way it does over here. Likewise, beings of the caliber you’re talking about can absolutely put their consciousness in more than one place at the same time.

It would be difficult to explain or understand how this works from our current physicality/density, but trust me, angels and other beings are more than capable of interacting with and assisting throngs of people at the same time.

Like I’ve mentioned in other posts, this life experience you’re having is more illusion than real. And the people you see wandering around the streets, are more you than not you. What’s really awesome is that you have unlimited access to anything and everything because you are All.

Most people spend their entire lives in a state of disconnection from their Source, but luckily we are still connected even when we forget that connection.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: If a deceased person is coming to you in your dream and showing you what really happened to them the day they passed away you should pay careful attention, as it could very well be true.

First you need to determine if you are really having communication with a deceased loved one.

Next, does their version seem plausible? If so, you’re probably get correct information.

Lastly, you may need to act on the information you get. Especially if the person was murdered or if there were extenuating circumstances. Sometimes spirits reveal they committed suicide when it really seemed like an accident. And sometimes the reverse is true.

Spirits who are not at rest or who have unfinished business or who are seeking justice will often send dreams to their loved ones in an attempt to notify them of the truth. So definitely pay attention and take those dreams seriously.

I’ve had several personal experiences and professional experiences where new information came through that turned out to be correct once tracked down and investigated. So it’s definitely possible, and in many cases, likely.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: On the other side there are no days, and we don’t have bodies, so definitely no eating, drinking, sleeping, or playing the harp.

Spirits on the other side do many things. They do “hang out” with other spirits they know. They commune with each other, share information, ideas, and philosophy.

Some spirits become spirit guides, so they actively work to help guide incarnated souls on their journeys.

Some spirits continue their “studies” on the other side, going to a sort of “school” as it would seem to us.

Spirits experience; anything and everything they want to. They travel the cosmos and meet other beings.

Some spirits help other spirits cross over. Some assist in the Akashic Records.

On the other side, we are energy, not matter, but we retain our consciousness. We look in on our loved ones, we plan our next life, and share our energy with others. It’s unlike our lives here in many ways, but it should be interesting for sure.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Most of the time a person does not choose to reincarnate so quickly. I often hear of people who say, “My grandmother died last week and then my niece was born and we’re pretty sure it’s grandma!” Uh no. Highly doubtful. Most souls do not reincarnate to the same family or that quickly either. So chances are excellent that anyone you knew in this life will be waiting and available for you when you cross over.

However, I believe that even if someone has reincarnated before you cross over, you can still reconnect with their higher self, who is always in the ether, anchoring their “player” who goes back to earth for another round of death and taxes.

You will see your loved ones again when you die.

Check out my ebook, The Other Side, for more information about what happens in the afterlife.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Having recently gone through the death of a very close friend, I can really sympathize and understand why having communication with a deceased loved one suddenly becomes a matter of great urgency.

I believe that most deceased people are trying to visit the loved ones they left behind. Sometimes they are literally standing right next to you and you can’t detect them. It’s frustrating for the dead to be so close and yet so far.

So I would say your mother is already visiting you, you’re just not detecting her. To improve your ability to detect a deceased presence, you can try one or all of these ideas.

1. Pay attention to dreams. Deceased people love to come through in dreams because your barriers are down and you’re more likely to let them in. If you can lucid dream, try connecting with them there.

2. Meditate. Meditation will help you raise your vibration which is like meeting them halfway. You’ll be more likely to detect the presence of a deceased person if your vibration is as high as possible. I’ve got a nifty meditation you can use to connect with a deceased loved on in my audio program Raising Your Vibration.

3. Channel. Sit quietly in their old bedroom, hold an object of theirs that is energetically charged. Clear your mind and focus on their energy. Daydream about them. After a few minutes you may feel their presence, or smell their favorite perfume, or hear them talking to you in your mind, or see them with your mind’s eye. Let it come. Don’t chase it.

4. Be patient. Sometimes your grief acts as a barrier for contact. So it may just be a little while until they can get through to you. Be patient but know they are there. Even famous mediums sometimes wait months or years to get contact. It took me 3-4 months before I heard from a deceased ex-boyfriend.

5. Talk to a medium. I recommend waiting at least 6 weeks before talking to a medium. But if you get a good one, it can be extremely comforting to hear from your deceased loved one so that you know they made it safely to the other side.

6. Ask others. Often it’s other people that end up getting communication from the other side even if they weren’t as energetically connected to them as you were. So ask your friends and family if they are getting communication. Even if you long for contact yourself, it should still be comforting to hear from others that your loved one is okay and still thinking about you.

P.S. Read my ebook, The Other Side, for tons of information about what happens when we die.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Sometimes a dream is just a dream and sometimes dreaming of a deceased loved one is actual communication. There are three ways to tell if it’s a real visitation.

The deceased person appears in front of you or you pick up a ringing phone and they are on the line. If instead you’re dreaming they are surfing or in chemistry class with you, probably just a dream. When dead people want to communicate, they forgo the frippery of dream symbolism and just appear to talk.

You realize during the dream that you are dreaming AND that the person in front of you is dead. If you find yourself saying, “Wait aren’t you dead?” it’s probably a true visitation. If instead you’re in chemistry class with them and you’re arguing over a test, it’s probably a dream.

The dream feels intensely lucid, real, and you have conscious thought while you are talking to them. When you wake up if you swear they were really there and that you were really talking to them, it was probably a visitation. If you’re able to direct questions to them and have real conversations about current events in your life, it’s probably a visitation. If instead you wake up and remember you were dreaming about them in chemistry class and thought it was neat what they did to that beaker, probably a dream.

Bottom line, if it feels like you’re really talking to them, if it feels like they’re really there, and if you remember they are dead during the dream, it’s most likely a visitation.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Question: How many questions are answered once we die do you think? Years ago, I used to say to myself, “I almost can’t wait to die, because these questions I have are driving me mad!” But seriously, what do you think? – Brandon

Answer: I’m not sure exactly how many questions get answered because in my current position and density, I don’t have access to the entirety of the universe. What I do know is that when we cross over we gain a much much better perspective about life here on Earth. We can see the bigger picture, we can see how we’re all connected, we remember things we couldn’t remember while here, we interact in ways we can’t interact here, we get knowledge we don’t have here, we meet beings we can’t detect while here, and so much more.

Like you, when I was a child I was driven to find out what happens after we die. I wanted to just pop over to the ether for a minute, download the answers, and come back. Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way and we’ll just have to wait. But along the journey, we can shove aside the veil to some extent. We can communicate with the deceased, visit the astral plane, view past lives, talk to our spirit guides, interact with angels, etc. but no one seems to be giving away the whole enchilada.

While we are incarnated, we are looking through a lens that we can’t remove, so everything we experience will be filtered by that lens. When you cross over you will be pleased to learn what you’d been missing, but I suspect that even in THAT state there will be new questions about the nature of reality.

So enjoy where you are and what you’ve got. For now.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Question: How many times can you incarnate? Could you incarnate like 200 times if you wanted to? – Donatas

Answer: You can incarnate as many times as you want. Incarnation is a choice. You get to decide if, when, and to whom you incarnate.

Right now you might be thinking, “Well then there’s no way I’m ever coming back here. Earth sucks!” But what you must remember is that you are like a character in a game, and you are immersed in the game, and while your character may be experiencing discomfort on its journey, you the player are totally intact and fine.

Once you leave Earth you regain your perspective, and you see things for what they really are, and you realize how fun the game is even when you’re drenched by the rain and stuck in the mud. So you’re going to have to wait until you get back to home base because only then will you be able to determine if coming back here is right or wrong for you.

For the advanced students: What will really bake your noodle is that while we perceive time here as linear, once you get to the other side you will see that time does not have the same meaning. It’s possible you are living all your lives (current, past, and future) at the same time. I wouldn’t worry about it right now though. Live the life you’ve got in the best way that you can. Honor this life. Honor your purpose. There is time enough to think about reincarnation later.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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“How do you know that you’re really talking to spirit guides and not demons?”

“How do you know the memories you have of the ether are accurate?”

“How do you know the information you’re getting is correct?”

“How do you know you’re not just imagining that you’re hearing spirit guides?”

“How do you know what’s going to happen in the future?”

“How do you know there is life after death?”

I want to address this because these are very good questions.

There is a difference between believing and knowing. For example, I know the sun shone yesterday, and I believe it will rise again tomorrow. I know I’ve written 500 blog articles and I believe I will write another one. I know I am a female, and I believe I will remain one until I die. I could be wrong about what I believe.

In truth, there is no way for us to know what is real. We believe we are human beings experiencing life here on Earth, but in reality we could be imagining this entire experience. We could be hooked up to machines and dreaming this entire existence. We could be a bunch of video game characters on God’s computer, or characters in a holodeck on a starship. We just don’t know. We can’t know. And any information we gather could just be part of the simulation or hallucination.

Given that we can’t really know what’s real, what are we supposed to do? How are we supposed to behave? How are we supposed to go on if we don’t really know what’s real? How are we supposed to trust any information our brains give us when all that information could be programmed at the whimsy of a machine, an alien, or a higher consciousness?

The answer is that we can’t know. We can’t ever really know. Even when we die and have some kind of experience, it could all be part of the hallucination.

But so what? We’re here. We’re conscious. So what if we don’t know how we got here or who made us or programmed us into existence? Trying to figure that out could drive you insane. No matter how we got here or who is in charge of us, we’re here. We have free will. We can choose our emotions. We can choose our own experiences. And we can choose our own beliefs.

Now … in MY world, in my existence, I seem to be able to get information from seemingly out of nowhere. Accurate information. I seem to have developed a method to be able to tune in to … something… that gives me information about my clients that helps them on their path. I believe this information is coming from spirit guides, but in truth, it could be that I’m hacking into the program, or the aliens are feeding me info, or there’s an evil demon that broke ranks and wants to help people. I honestly don’t know for sure. The only thing I know is that I can do it, it works, and it helps people.

So going back to the questions above:

I know I can get accurate information that helps my clients. I believe it comes from spirit guides, angels, and higher selves.

I know I have memories of my time before I incarnated, and I believe they are accurate but I can’t know for sure.

I know the information I’m getting is correct because my clients tell me I’m correct and I’ve read for thousands of people accurately. I believe I can continue to do so.

I know I’m hearing something that gives me accurate information, and I believe it’s from the guides but I don’t know it with 100% certainty.

I know I can tell people things that do come to pass, but I don’t know how I’m able to do that. I believe that trusting what the guides tell me is the best way to continue to use this ability.

I know I’ve had the experience of leaving my body behind, so I believe the soul continues on after the body dies. I believe there is an afterlife, but I can’t know for sure until I get there myself.

The point is… we create our own realities using knowledge and beliefs. If you can create your own reality, create something that serves you, that makes you feel happy, or safe, or comforted. Why plug in to a reality where some evil god in the sky can smite you if you sin? Why plug into a reality where you are bereft of hope because you think there is nothing after we die? There is no evidence either way.

In my world, psychic abilities exist, and I can use them to help people find happiness in their lives, careers, relationships, etc. I’ve told people about health problems they didn’t know they had, and they’ve received medical attention that saved their lives. I don’t really care where that information comes from. It hasn’t let me down yet.

I know I am able to help others, and I believe that’s a good way to live a life. So I’m going to continue to do it. And if one day I find out that all the information I thought I was getting from spirit guides was actually coming from a bored alien on a spaceship who had nothing better to do than broadcast this information to me, so be it. I will have chosen to spend my time in service to others, and that’s a choice I would make regardless of what is real and what is not.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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This week’s question comes from Linamon:

“Do we have to incarnate again?”

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Hello and welcome to another episode of “Ask Erin Pavlina.” Today’s question comes from Linamon. “Can a person choose not to incarnate again? If they choose not to incarnate, where do they stay?”

When you are in the ether, which is where you are before you choose to incarnate, you are the one who makes the decision about whether or not you’re going to come back to Earth in a human body. Nobody can force you to incarnate again. It’s definitely your choice, and if you don’t want to incarnate, you don’t have to.

What happens is, when you feel like you’re ready to experience life again or if you feel like you have something that you want to come back here to teach people, then you will choose to incarnate again and you will find a suitable host – a suitable family who will help you learn the lessons that you intend to learn and to have the experiences you’d like to have. You choose them and you incarnate again, and that could be anywhere from ten years after your last life to a hundred to maybe even a thousand years after your last life. Nobody determines for you whether you will incarnate or not, so rest assured if you decide you do not want to come back here, you don’t have to come back.

Where do people go if they choose not to incarnate? Where do they stay? You’re pretty much staying in the afterlife experience, what I call the ether, where you are an energetic being, and you continue to have experiences and interactions with other beings so it’s not like you’re just sitting around watching TV all day or watching what’s going on on planet Earth. You’re not stuck there, and you’re not in some kind of heaven that’s really really boring after a thousand years.

There are experiences that happen in the afterlife that you get to experience, and interact with other people and you get to share your energy and there’s a lot of love on the other side and it’s a nice place to be. If you choose not to incarnate, you’re going to be fine and you’re probably going to enjoy yourself quite a bit in the afterlife, so definitely not something to worry about. Good question.

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Answer: Ah the joys of astral travel with a buddy. Once you’ve learned how to successfully astral project, isn’t it natural that you’d want to share the joy with a friend? But if your friend doesn’t know how to astral project, how will you get him out?

If you can get out of your own body, by all means, fly to your friend’s house and try to get their attention. If your friend is fully awake, they won’t be able to see you and may not even know you’re there. So wait until they are asleep when you stand a greater chance of being seen by their astral self.

You won’t be able to tap them on the shoulder or scream their name, so you want to gently push some energy towards them so it comes into contact with their astral field. Many people sense danger when you do this, though, so don’t be surprised if doing this actually wakes them up or just firmly ensconces them in their bodies to avoid the assault they interpret as you.

If your friend knows you’re coming, that’s always better, as they may not block or shield themselves from you. So once you get their attention, they may open their energy to you. If your friend knows how to astral project, it will be easy for them to separate at this point. If they don’t, you can merge some of your energy with theirs and telepathically encourage them to leave the warm, safe confines of their body to travel with you. This is unlikely to occur if the person has never astral traveled before. The physical body holds tight to its astral body and doesn’t let it go easily. Be loving and encouraging, never forceful. A body in fear does not release its astral self.

If you see your friend slip out of his body, you can go fly around together and both of you should remember the experience. But it’s just not as easy as it seems like it should be. It’s easy to be distracted on the astral plane by other creatures that roam there. It’s also easy to slip into different frequencies so that you’re on one plane and he’s on another. And most astral experiences last only a few seconds to a few minutes before someone gets overly excited and is pulled back to their body. But keep trying and keep practicing.

You can also try asking your friend to meet you somewhere prearranged at a certain time. This has the benefit of you not having to go play tug of war with your friend’s body, but the odds of both of you getting there at the same time are pretty small. There is no sense of time on the astral plane, and I don’t know too many people who know what time it is while they are sleeping. If you’re very accomplished travelers, though, you can certainly set an alarm to wake you at a certain time and then go astral immediately and meet at the rendezvous point. Otherwise, plan to spend a long time waiting at that lightpost on the corner for your friend to arrive.

I’ve had a few experiences where I successfully astral traveled with a friend, but we were both very experienced and were waging war against a demonic entity at the time, so the stakes were high and we were both very committed to the experience.

I’ve also had several experiences where I encountered family members sleeping in the house with me and I would see their astral bodies inside their sleeping bodies and attempt to make contact or provide reassurance. Sometimes my family or friends would “call” my astral self to them if they were being attacked by a lower vibrational astral entity. That was alright with me as I became very comfortable interacting with and dispelling lower vibrational beings when necessary and was happy to do it for them.

If you can’t astral travel with your friends, you may be able to find other humans on the astral plane to interact with. Again, you have to be on the same plane and frequency and learn how to communicate without words, but what a fun way to make a new friend.

Remember, kids, you must always astral travel safely. You don’t want to bring something back with you. You don’t want to encourage entities to hover around you while you’re awake, leeching and sucking off your considerable energy. And you don’t want to become so enamored with astral projection that you forget to sleep and let your body and mind restore itself. But for occasional use, it’s just fine.

Happy and safe traveling!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: This is a great question and one I’ve been asked many times. The short answer is that I could communicate with Source during my intuitive sessions with clients. The only problem is, the reading would be very short, as God only has one message, and it’s the same for everyone. That message is, “You are loved.”

If you want to expand on that a little, here’s the slightly longer version. You are of Source. You are connected to Source always. There is no other way you can be. You may forget your connection. You may disconnect from Love. You may turn away from Source. You may dabble in disbelief. You may question the existence of Source. Doesn’t matter to Source. You are still loved.

If you ask Source whether you should leave your job as a computer programmer to become a singer, Source will respond, “If it helps you remember you are loved.” If you ask Source whether you should marry your fiancé, Source will say, “If it helps you remember you are loved.” If you ask Source whether you should have a baby, Source will say, “If it helps you remember you are loved.”

You are here to experience all that this life has to offer. And Source has gifted you with free will to make any decision you want. In the process, you will either remember you are loved or you will forget. And the more you remember, the happier your life will be. The more you forget, the more difficult your life will feel. In the beginning, before you got here, you were loved. In the end, when you return home, you will be loved. What you do in between is your choice. Source has no requirements for you.

When I do readings, people want to know what direction to take their lives so they can be happier. I’ve never had someone ask me how to make his life more difficult. So I turn to the spirit guides, which are the beautiful beings assigned to you before birth to help you navigate the maze of your life. It is their specific duty to encourage, nudge, guide, direct, and drop clues on your path so that you may find what you desire.

So when I ask your guides if you should leave your job as a computer programmer to become a singer, they offer me information that only they can see about that path. I relay it to you and you make the final decision about what will bring you more happiness. If you ask whether you should marry your fiancé, they may shine a light on the qualities your partner possesses that will bring you happiness or unhappiness, and then it is up to you to decide if you’d like to experience that. And if you ask about having a baby, your guides will present to you what your life will be like with or without a child in it, and again you will decide if you desire the outcome.

There are no wrong choices in life. You get to experience whatever you desire, whatever you attract, and whatever comes your way. But always, you are loved.

So during a reading with me if you want me to channel Source for you, you’re going to hear back, “You are loved.” If you feel like you need a little more than that, you’ll probably get, “You are loved. A lot.” It’s quite powerful really. But it definitely won’t take me 30 minutes to convey the message.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer:  Sometimes when I’m doing a reading for a client both of their parents do come through during the reading.  The way they present to me tells me more about their relationship than if they flat out told me what their situation was.

If a couple was happily together at the time of the first person’s demise, I usually see them come through together, as if they are holding hands or hugging.  It doesn’t really matter whether they were legally married or not; their closeness in death reflects how close they were in life.

If they were separated in life, as in their energy was separate from each other, I usually see them standing apart, with one parent behind the left shoulder and the other parent behind the right shoulder.  In this case it also doesn’t matter whether they were married or divorced… it’s more a statement of their closeness at the time of their demise.

Sometimes four parents will come through and I’ll have to discern who the step parents were and who is connected to whom.  Yes, it can get complicated.  But honestly that’s rare.  I usually only have one deceased person come through, and sometimes they bring through another member of the family.

During readings I will also see parents and deceased siblings come through together, i.e. the sitter’s brother and mother are deceased and they come through to me together.  How they present visually is an indicator of their closeness in life. 

Are they really all together on the other side hanging out all day shooting the breeze?  Yes and no.  From what I’ve been shown, some energies do choose to stick together, and some go their separate ways at death.  I wouldn’t say they’re sitting around shooting the breeze.  I think it’s more that they come together during a reading because of the opportunity to interact with their living loved one, and they use their energy to show me their relationship.  After a reading is over, they go back to what they were doing before the reading.

In short, you stick with the energies of people with whom you’ve made strong loving connections, and you part ways with those you don’t resonate with.  But just because you fight or argue with a loved one while incarnated, doesn’t mean you’ll separate out when you get to the other side.  Where there is love, there is connection.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer:  Not usually, no.  In my many experiences of being outside my body I was unable to move objects in the physical world either through touch or telekinesis.  Nor would I necessarily expect to be able to affect physical reality while on the astral plane.  Let’s look at it logically.

Your physical body vibrates at a certain density, a lower density than your energetic or astral body.  So your physical body is fully capable of grasping a cup, opening a door, and walking around for example, because those objects are on the same plane as your physical body.  Your astral body is energy without physical form and is roaming around on a different plane.  Just as in your physical body you cannot “touch” anything on the astral plane, so too on the astral plane you cannot “touch” anything on the physical plane.

One of the reasons you can so easily float through a wall or window while in an astral state is precisely because the wall exists on the material, physical plane, where you are no longer vibrating.  You may see the wall in your astral state, but it is not on the same plane as you anymore so you easily pass through it like it isn’t there.  One thing that can affect how well and how easily you move through the wall, though, is your expectation of being able to do so.  Many people, when they first go astral, assume they must maneuver around physical objects; but soon you learn that you can easily fly, float or fling yourself through them quite easily.

One thing you can do to the physical world while in an astral state is be sensed by people who are awake.  I’ve had experiences where I was astral, floated on over to a friend’s house while they were awake, tried to get them to see me or notice me, and have them tell me the next day they “felt my presence” at the same time I was there.  This is difficult however.  Most people who are awake are not at all attuned to the astral plane.  That would be like tuning in to a cable channel you don’t normally get just to see if something other than static is coming through at that moment.

I do believe, though I’ve never personally experienced it, that it’s possible with great effort to do something to the physical world while in an astral state.  If you’ve seen the movie, Ghost, with Patrick Swayze, he eventually learns how to move a physical object (the penny) but it takes great effort.  You have to force the energy of your astral body to vibrate at a lower density to bring it into phase with the physical object you’re trying to move.  That’s tough.  So while I believe in theory it could work, I think you’d have to really practice and spend a lot of time trying in order to get it done.

Meeting up with another astral person is possible while in an astral state, because you’ll come into phase with them.  Both of you would have to be astral at the same time and know where to meet and when.

If you are an accomplished astral projector and you have managed to affect the physical world while astral, please report your story in our forums, as I’m very interested to hear your account.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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