Question: How do you raise your energy when you’ve been stepped on and emotionally trounced by another person, and your self esteem is so low that you can’t even imagine ever being happy again? Answer: I think everyone goes through periods in their lives when they feel stepped on and emotionally crushed. Sometimes the emotional pain is worse than any physical pain you can imagine. I know, I’ve been there myself. Trying to find happiness, trying to find even a smidgeon of joy, can be difficult, especially if you have low self esteem or otherwise feel powerless. Find positive thoughts.