A lot of people appear to be under the impression that a psychic is able to tell you what’s going to happen in your future. I’ve said it before and I’ll keep saying it, your life is not predestined, you have free will. Every choice you make today determines your future tomorrow. The future is not set in stone. No one can guarantee that your future will be a certain way. So what’s the point in consulting a psychic then if he or she can’t tell you what’s going to happen? Ah, the million dollar question. Let’s discuss.
We’re going to have to use an analogy to understand this best. The stork drops you off in a forest and you get to wander around the forest for the rest of your life. Before you were born, you decided you wanted to see certain sites around the forest, but when you are born, you forget what they were. So in comes your spirit guides. Imagine they are floating above the forest. They always know where you are and so they know where you’ve been. They can also see where you’re going, up to a point.
Let’s say you’re on the path that leads to a big lake. You go see a psychic who can communicate with your guides and you ask, “Am I ever going to find a lake?” The guides report to the psychic, “Yes, she is really close. She turns the next bend and it will be right in front of her, but she can’t see it from where she’s standing.” So the psychic says, “Yes, it looks like you’re going to find that big lake. Just keep doing what you’re doing and keep going the way you’ve been going. You can’t miss it.”
But let’s say you ask, “Am I ever going to find a lake?” and the guides tell the psychic, “There’s definitely a lake there, but she’s about 30 miles away. In order for her to get to the lake she’s going to need to take a right, then a left, then two more rights, and a final left. But between her and that lake are some things she’ll have to deal with, like a hungry jaguar, a pit with spikes in it, and a tree that’s laying across the path.” So the psychic tells the sitter, “I do see that as an option however it’s not clear whether you will actually reach the lake. There are going to be some challenges along the way, and you may make decisions that veer you away from reaching the lake.” The sitter is annoyed. “Do you see me at the lake or not? It’s a simple question?” To which the psychic, if she is honest and ethical, must reply, “You are capable, you have the ability, but you are not close enough to this goal for them to say for certain that you will arrive there. We’ll have to see. To increase your chances, however, you should probably invest in a hunting rifle, a big wooden plank, and a chainsaw.” And that is the benefit in getting a reading with someone who can communicate with the guides hovering above your forest, to prepare you to face what’s around the corner, and to inform you of what you’ll need to safely navigate the road ahead.
I’ve learned something interesting after doing more than 1400 readings and getting a lot of feedback as to how things turned out for people afterwards. I can tell when something is definitely going to happen and when something is so far off in the distance that one single choice you make along the way can derail you. I liken these two options to shooting a gun, or spraying silly string. When you shoot a gun, that bullet is going out with such force and trajectory that nothing is going to stop it and it’s going to hit its mark. When you spray a can of silly string, the force is weak and the trajectory is almost impossible to calculate. So when people ask me a question about their future, I can tell by whether I feel the gun or the silly string how likely or how close they are to achieving this desire.
Imagine being in your forest and there was only one path, and all you had to do was follow it to reach the other side of the forest. You weren’t allowed to veer off the path, explore deeper territory, or even back track and try another path. Why bother living? What would be the point? In reality, we are dropped off in this forest and we’re allowed to explore at our own discretion. As a youngster, we follow our parents who make decisions about where we’re going, but as we get older, we are asked to take the lead and go off and find our own path.
When I read for people I sometimes see people latch on to others in the forest and follow them on their path. You’re allowed to do this, but make sure you get the opportunity to explore the parts of the forest that appeal to you too. It’s not healthy to just follow someone else your whole life.
Also, you will meet people in the forest who are coming from the same place you’re planning to go. Ask them what the path ahead of you looks like. They might say, “Well there’s a jaguar loose on the path that way, be careful” or “You are really close to a beautiful lake. Take the next right and you’ll be practically sitting on top of it. You can’t miss it.”
Sometimes people ask me, “What is the name of my future husband and where and what exact day will he and I meet?” Unless that’s going to happen tomorrow, do you understand now why a psychic cannot tell you with 100% accuracy the answer to that question? However, if you ask, “Do you see love approaching on my path? Is a relationship coming?” that I can definitely get an answer to. When the guides look down on the path they can see other people who are about to interact with you. If you’re standing close to a good potential partner, we can give you the nudge you need to “run into him.”
Some psychics are loathe to sound anything less than omniscient. They do a disservice to the craft though when they tell you something is a definite when in fact there are 10 ways for you to be sidetracked from your goal. So if you ask them, “Where and when will I meet my future husband?” and they say, “10am on June 18th 2 years from now at the Starbucks on the corner” you’re like, “Oh wow, that’s incredible!” Yeah, check back in two years and you’ll realize it probably didn’t happen and that psychic is nowhere to be found. And in the meantime, maybe your prince charming ran into you a year earlier and you ignored him because the psychic told you it wasn’t going to happen until June 18th two years from then.
You must also understand that the guides may know something that is about to happen to you but can’t tell you because it will rob you of your power or derail something important. A man wrote to me recently to tell me that about a month after his reading with me his wife was in a car accident and hurt her neck very badly. He wanted to know why the guides didn’t warn him. First, it’s not the responsibility of our guides to warn us about every pitfall life has to offer. We wouldn’t grow if we could magically avoid all hardship. Second, maybe she wasn’t headed for a car accident at the time of the reading, but chose a path afterward that led her to this accident. Third, what if she was tooling along properly on her path and someone else on another path made a decision that suddenly and without warning impacted her path? Accidents do happen. The guides can see but they can’t move people around like pieces on a chess board and sometimes collisions happen. And lastly, what would have happened if the guides had actually said to this man, “Tell your wife to be careful while driving, she’s due to have a terrible accident.” Would she have driven at all? Or would she have been so freaked out that she decided to take the bus? And for how long? A day, a month, a year? Telling someone that something terrible is about to happen to them can send someone to bed, hiding under the covers forever.
Does that mean the guides can’t warn us if something terrible is about to befall us? I have often received warnings for people, but that happens when the danger or problem is right around the corner or when it’s already happening and the sitter just isn’t aware of it yet. For example, this has happened when someone was being stalked and her stalker found her but she didn’t know it yet. It’s happened when a guy was about to be fired but didn’t know it. And it’s happened when someone had a life threatening illness but wasn’t aware of it yet. In those cases, the guides can see and report on something that is already in the process of happening. That’s another good reason to get a reading.
Will a spirit guide always warn you about something bad in these cases? They’ll only tell you if it will help you on your path. Guides are concerned about your growth, and not necessarily about your comfort. What if getting fired is the best thing for you and warning you would give you the opportunity to prevent it? What if the next beating you get from your abusive boyfriend is the beating that causes you to leave the guy? Would they want to prevent that? Would they say, “Be careful not to burn the eggs or he’s going to bust your nose?” or would they allow it to happen because it’s for your own good? It’s not for me to say or judge what information a guide gives me to pass along. I’m just the conduit.
I know you want definitive answers from a reading, but that sometimes comes with a price and it’s usually powerlessness. I read for a woman once and the guides told me she was in dire straits financially, and suggested she start looking for a job. The woman confirmed for me that she was unemployed and had no intention of looking for a job even though her bills were piling up and she was in deep trouble. So I had to ask her, “Why are you avoiding getting a job and taking care of yourself?” To which she replied, “A psychic in California told me I was going to win the lottery and a prince from Europe was going to marry me, so why should I bother with getting a job?” Even if this was true, (and it most certainly was not!), she gave all her power up to this “vision” of her future, deciding to just sit back and wait for it to happen. What if the supposed prince was supposed to find her working at a job and instead she’s sitting at home waiting for him to call?
The guides do not want to strip you of your power. Sometimes knowing too much about your future causes you to stop taking the very actions that will ensure it. So the guides have to be careful about what information they tell you and how it’s phrased. Guides won’t lie to you, but it’s probable they aren’t telling you the whole story either as that would ruin your adventure. What if you’re supposed to run into that jaguar because it teaches you courage. If they tell you about the jaguar and you avoid it, they’ll just have to coerce a lion to attack you instead.
So, what’s going to happen to you? That’s your choice. What does the path look like just ahead of you? What tools do you need to better prepare yourself to meet what’s on your path? What aren’t you aware of that could be negatively impacting your path? Are you currently on a path that has the capability of leading to a desired goal or are you going entirely in the wrong direction? All good questions to ask your guides.
Your guides are here to help you navigate your way through the forest of life, not to fight your battles or make your decisions for you. They are the map, but you are the explorer. Be prepared, stay sharp, and consult your map every once in a while to make sure you are where you think you are and are going where you think you’re going. Life is easier when you consult the map. But even that’s a choice.