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This week’s question comes from Joe:
“Does thinking about deceased relatives hold them here?”
Transcript of the Video:
Hello and welcome to another episode of “Ask Erin Pavlina.” Today’s question comes from Joe. Joe writes, “Do we prevent deceased loved ones from being able to move on by thinking about them too often?”
Here’s what happens when you die. When you die, most people – the vast majority of people – cross over easily, quickly and well. Which means that they move on into the light, they have their crossing over experience, they’re greeted by loved ones on the other side and they’re happy bappy on the other side. There is a very, very, very small amount of people who resist crossing over and might stick around a little bit longer after they’ve died because they’re not ready to let go of the life they’ve had or because they fear judgment. They resist crossing over because they fear, perhaps, that they will be sent to hell or something like that. There is no hell except that which you make for yourself. So there is a very small – very small – percentage of people who do stick around a little longer than necessary.
What happens is when you’re thinking about your loved ones who have crossed over, for the most part there is no problem at all. They can receive your energetic communication. They know you’re thinking about them, they can hear you when you’re talking to them and they are not in any distress whatsoever and they are not being held back by your energy. The only caveat to this is the people who stick around because they fear judgment, or people who stick around because they’re afraid to cross over, or because they’re not ready to cross over. Then what happens is, when you think about them, it does kind of anchor them here a little bit, because they’re feeding off that energy to stay here instead of crossing over, and they’re so anxious to stay that your thoughts can anchor them to this plane.
Over time what happens is the angels come and help the person cross over completely. So, I wouldn’t worry too much about thinking about your loved ones. Always send them love. It’s great to be thinking about them. Like I said, the vast majority of people cross over easily, quickly and well. You don’t need to worry about anchoring them here. If you are in communication with somebody who you feel is really sticking around and that they have not crossed over for whatever reason, then you want to send them energy to help them cross over. You want to let them know it’s OK to cross over, that you’ll be OK without them, that there’s nothing to fear. That will help them cross over so they won’t be anchored here. I definitely suggest you do that if you feel like you’re in a situation where your deceased loved one may not be fully crossed over.
There’s no real way to know what stage they’re in, whether they’re crossed over or not, unless you have the ability to communicate with them clearly or you go to a medium who can help you determine where they’re at, but I don’t want you to sit there worrying that your loved one didn’t make it. Ninety-nine point nine percent of people cross over with no problem whatsoever. Even people who were in accidents, who were murdered or who suicided can easily cross over with no problem at all, so don’t worry about them. In general, continue to send loving thoughts to all of your deceased relatives on the other side and help them cross over and help them experience the joy of being on the other side. Good question.