I was doing a reading for a client the other day and her question for her guides went something like this, “Erin, my husband cheated on me with a woman at work and then he left me and the kids to go be with her. They are living together in the lap of luxury while I am struggling emotionally, financially, and mentally. I can’t stop thinking about how happy they are and how miserable I am. Can the guides offer some advice on how I can get back at him for ruining my life? I can’t let him get away with what he’s done to me.”
When I tuned in to her guides with this question they painted me a picture of what this woman’s thoughts were doing to her psyche. She had painted herself into a very dark place where no joy could enter. Her thoughts were obsessive and not at all constructive.
At the same time, the guides showed me how much pain she was in, and how she actually blamed herself for her husband leaving her, but she couldn’t face that so instead she focused all her attention on revenge and retribution.
Her guides wanted her to let go of her hate and focus on what she could control. So they said this to her…
“Imagine you got a lamp, rubbed it, and a genie popped out and offered you three wishes. Would you use one of your wishes to inflict pain and misery on your ex and his new girlfriend? Would you waste a wish on revenge?”
There was silence on the other end of the call. I waited.
Finally she said, “Actually no, I wouldn’t. If I had three wishes, and only three wishes, I would use all of them to make sure me and my kids were okay and that they lived a good and happy life knowing how much I loved them. I don’t think that getting revenge on my ex would be a good use of such a powerful wish.”
Then her guides said this, “If you were going to focus your time and energy on creating one thing, would it be focused on getting revenge or on making sure you and your children were happy?”
She said, “I would want to focus on creating joy for me and my children.”
There was a pause, and she burst into tears. She said, “You know, I have been so focused on my hatred of my ex that I don’t even spend time working on creating joy for us. I’m realizing now as you’ve asked me this genie question that I have been spending my wish on revenge. It seems so silly now.”
We spent the rest of the call discussing ways she could increase her joy and that of her children. She started the call in a dark place and by the end of it she had a to do list that would bring her joy instead.
Ask yourself what you want the most and then ask yourself, “But would I waste a wish on this?”
Very quickly the most important things rise to the top of your list. Figure out what those are and put your energy, time, and focus on manifesting what you most desire. It may not be what you think it is.