When people come to me for readings after losing a loved one, they often carry a silent fear. They wonder if the person who crossed over is still suffering. They want to know if their loved one is healed, or if the pain they experienced in life continues in the afterlife. I have connected with countless souls over the years, and what I have learned has given me tremendous peace. I hope it brings you comfort as well.
What Happens When a Soul Leaves the Body
When we leave our physical body, we shed the emotional and psychological weight that belongs to the human experience. I have only rarely connected with a soul who was still trapped in the trauma they endured on Earth. Usually I sense an immediate clarity and freedom that comes from no longer being bound by the limitations of the body or the mind.
While we are alive, we carry unresolved feelings that can linger for years. We hold grudges. We feel shame or regret. We replay painful events over and over. Once a soul crosses over, those patterns no longer have a hold. What remains is understanding and awareness without the emotional charge. There is no suffering in that space.
If a soul is still suffering trauma, their guides and angelic energies help them process and heal their trauma.
The Life Review and the Healing Process
I see the life review as a compassionate debriefing rather than a judgment. In the sessions I have done, I see souls examining their choices and experiences from a place of complete neutrality. They see how their actions impacted others, and they understand why certain events unfolded. They are not punished. Instead, they gain insight.
This review is part of the healing process, and it allows the soul to release any lingering emotional debris. What we consider trauma on Earth becomes learning and growth on the other side. The soul views the difficult moments of life with a much broader perspective, which naturally dissolves the suffering attached to those memories.
How Souls Experience Forgiveness and Closure
Many people ask me if their loved ones are still angry or resentful when they cross over. In my experience, the answer is no. Once a soul transitions, forgiveness becomes effortless. They no longer cling to the ego or the wounds that shaped their human identity. They see their life from a place of unity and compassion, and that perspective makes anger impossible to sustain.
If you had a challenging relationship with someone who has passed, know that they are not holding onto the pain. They understand your journey and their own. They often send messages of reassurance because they want you to release your guilt or regret. They are already at peace.
Trauma Does Not Define the Soul’s Eternal State
One of the most comforting truths I have learned is that trauma never becomes a permanent scar on the soul. Life on Earth is designed to present us with challenges, some of them incredibly difficult. We experience pain so we can grow, expand, and evolve. The soul understands this, and once it returns home, it carries only the wisdom, not the wound.
The healing that takes place on the other side is immediate, complete, and deeply loving. Souls do not suffer. They do not remain broken or damaged. They return to their natural state, which is pure consciousness and unconditional love.
Your Loved Ones Want You to Heal Too
When I connect with loved ones on the other side, they often express a desire for those left behind to find healing as well. They see our grief. They see our unresolved feelings. They hope that we can release the pain and find peace, just as they have.
If you carry trauma connected to someone who has passed, I encourage you to speak to them, meditate with them, or write to them. They hear you. They support you. They are healed, and they want you to heal too.
