I read for a lot of clients who come to me because they just don’t want to be here on Earth anymore.
A lot of times they say, “I’m not suicidal, but if I was hit by a bus tomorrow, I sometimes think it would be a relief.”
Or, “All I do is suffer. When is this going to end? How bad would it be on a spiritual level if I left right now?”
And, “Would I just have to come back and repeat all this misery if I checked out early?”
I get it. Your spirit guides get it. Life can be incredibly difficult. It can be actual torture just waking up each morning and finding you’re still here.
The struggle, whether it’s mental, physical, emotional, or spiritual, can wear you down slowly, the way water erodes a mountain into a canyon.
Let me tell you what I hear the guides saying to my clients during readings. You may find some hope, comfort, or a way back to joy.
Expectations Can Erode Happiness
Many of my clients talk about how life just didn’t turn out the way they planned. They expected their lives to look a certain way, feel a certain way, or progress on a certain timeline. When that didn’t happen, they felt defeated, lost, or like they somehow failed.
It is healthy to dream and set goals. It gives us direction. But when life does not cooperate with our expectations, suffering increases if we refuse to adapt.
At some point, we all have to play the cards we were dealt, not the cards we wish we had.
I see people holding themselves hostage to an imagined version of life that no longer exists. They keep measuring their present against a past expectation, and that comparison drains their joy.
Expectations are not the problem by themselves. Rigid attachment to them is.
Doing the Same Things Creates the Same Life
Another message that comes through very clearly is this. If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten.
That can be confronting to hear, especially when you are exhausted or overwhelmed. But it is also empowering.
In careers, I see people stay in jobs they hate because they are familiar, even though those jobs drain their spirit. They keep hoping something will magically change without changing anything themselves. A new role, a new company, additional training, or even a temporary step sideways can alter the entire trajectory of a career. Doing nothing keeps you stuck in the same emotional loop.
In relationships, many people unconsciously choose the same patterns over and over again. They date the same type of person, tolerate the same behaviors, or abandon their own needs in the same ways. Then they wonder why every relationship ends the same way. New outcomes require new boundaries, new standards, and sometimes the courage to be alone for a while.
In health, I see people who desperately want to feel better but resist making even small changes. They wait for motivation to appear before they act. Motivation often comes after action, not before it. A ten-minute walk, drinking more water, or addressing stress honestly can be the first crack of light in a very dark place.
Nothing changes until something changes.
Identify What Would Actually Make You Happy
One of the most important questions the guides encourage people to ask is this. “What would actually make me feel happier, lighter, or more at peace right now?”
Not what should make you happy. Not what made you happy ten years ago. Not what would impress others.
What would make you feel even five percent better?
For some people, it is more rest. For others, it is creative expression, meaningful work, better boundaries, or finally grieving something they have been avoiding.
Happiness does not always arrive in grand transformations. Very often, it begins with honesty.
Take Baby Steps Toward a Life You Love
You do not have to fix your entire life at once. That idea alone overwhelms many people and keeps them frozen.
The guides talk a lot about baby steps. Small, manageable changes that gently redirect your path.
If you hate your job, the first step might simply be updating your resume or talking to someone in a field that interests you.
If you feel lonely, the first step might be joining a group, taking a class, or reconnecting with one safe person.
If your body feels like a prison, the first step might be compassion instead of criticism.
Small steps taken consistently can transform a life. Not overnight, but in ways that are real and lasting.
You Are Not Failing at Being Human
One thing I want to say very clearly is this. Feeling this way does not mean you are weak, broken, or failing spiritually.
It means you are human in a world that can be harsh, confusing, and demanding.
The guides do not shame people for feeling tired of being here. They respond with empathy. If you leave early you do not have to repeat this life.
But staying gives you the chance to rewrite your story in ways you may not be able to see yet.
You are not required to love life every day. You are only asked to keep showing up and to remain open to change.
Even when you cannot see the path forward, taking one small step toward something that feels better is often enough to begin finding your way back to yourself.
You are not alone. There are probably hundreds of millions of people (if not more) who have wished their life was over. This chapter, as painful as it may be, does not have to be the end of your story.
When you change a variable in the equation, you get a different result.
