Recently someone asked me this: “If you’re reading for a person and they want to know if someone is compatible to date, do you only talk to their spirit guides, or are the spirit guides of the person of interest also consulted to see if they agree with the assessment?”
It’s a fair question, and the answer is that I do both.
When you come to me asking about compatibility, I don’t treat it as a one-sided conversation. Relationships aren’t one-sided, so the insight shouldn’t be either. I start by tuning in to your spirit guides. They know you intimately. They understand your patterns, your emotional needs, your blind spots, and your growth path. From their perspective, I can see how this connection might support you, bring you immense joy, where it might challenge you, and what lessons could come from it.
They’ll often show me the dynamics at play. Maybe you’re drawn to someone who mirrors an old wound. Maybe there’s real potential for growth and partnership, but it requires communication skills you haven’t fully developed yet.
Sometimes they’ll highlight beautiful alignment, and other times they’ll point out areas where you two might struggle.
But that’s only half the picture.
Once I understand how your guides feel about the connection, I’ll then reach out to the other person’s spirit guides. This part matters more than people realize. The other person is on their own path, with their own desires, lessons, timing, and emotional readiness. Their guides will offer insight into whether this connection aligns with their journey.
Sometimes both sets of guides are in agreement. They’ll show me that the relationship has strong potential, that both people can find joy together, and that the connection is mutually supportive. When that happens, I’ll share what makes it work, not just that it works. You deserve to understand the strengths you can build on.
Other times, there’s hesitation. The other person’s guides might indicate that they’re not ready, that they’re focused on something else, or that the connection would create imbalance. In those cases, I’ll explain what I’m seeing and why. It’s not about shutting something down, it’s about giving you clarity.
And then there are moments when clear red flags come through.
If I’m shown that someone is emotionally unsafe, abusive, manipulative, or not who they claim to be, I will tell you. That includes situations where someone may be misrepresenting themselves or even catfishing. Your guides are very protective of you, and if something feels off, they won’t sugarcoat it. Neither will I.
That said, spirit guides don’t make decisions for you.
They won’t tell you who you’re “allowed” to love or whether you must walk away. What they do is give you a clearer view of the landscape. They’ll show you the strengths, the weaknesses, the potential, and the risks. From there, you get to decide what you want to do with that information.
That’s the most important part of any reading.
You’re not handing over your free will. You’re gathering insight so you can make a more informed choice. Whether you move forward, take a step back, or walk away entirely, that decision always belongs to you.
If you’re ever unsure about someone, it’s okay to ask for a deeper look. Sometimes what your heart feels and what your guides know just need a little space to meet in the middle.
And when they do, things tend to become a lot clearer.
If you’d like me to look into the compatibility between you and someone you’re thinking about, you can book a reading with me. I’ll help you understand the connection so you can move forward with clarity and confidence or pull back if there’s strong red flags.
