In my work as an intuitive counselor I read for many people who are suicidal or simply want to be dead. When I tune in to their energy I see little pinpricks of light in their chakras. The light is dying, going out. Their will to live is fading. I’ve had some clients say to me, “Literally this is the last phone call before I kill myself. You’ve got 30 minutes to convince me to stay alive. Go.”
I am not remotely daunted by this situation, nor do I feel undue pressure to perform. In every reading I do, I am simply a relay. I tune in to a client’s spirit guides and they tell me what my client most needs to know to help him on his path. I don’t have to figure out how to help anyone. I just listen to their guides and pass along vital information.
Your spirit guides know where you are, what you’ve been through, and how to help you. They know what you’ve gotten yourself into, they know what is blocking you from happiness, and they know how to fix your situation. If you can’t hear them, I can do that for you.
Because I’ve done so many readings for people who want to die, I’ve begun to understand the pattern. You want something, you go after it, you don’t get it, and you stop in your tracks. For some people, this is no big deal. They say “shucks,” turn around, back track a little, and try another path. But for others, seeing the dead end in the maze of life is enough to cause great despair of ever finding anything in the maze worth having. They don’t have the strength or energy to keep going. So they decide to either end their lives or wish a bus would slam them into oblivion.
But life doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t need to get to the point of wanting to bug out. Here is what you can do to battle the desire to suicide.
Don’t give your power away
If you decide that the only way you can be happy is to accomplish x or to have y and you don’t have complete control over getting x or y then you are giving your power away. If it’s not in your complete control to achieve it, then you can fail to have it. And if failing to have it is going to cause you to want to end your life, then you are giving your power away to something that was never yours to begin with. Don’t do it. If you’re counting on something external to make you happy, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, be the author of your own life. Work with what you can control.
Listen to your intuition
Your spirit guides constantly broadcast wisdom, insight, and advice your way. That’s their job. They are trying to help you achieve your goals. If you can’t hear them, it’s easy to lose your way in the maze. If you could hear them, you’re more likely to get where you want to go. It’s the simple. Avoid getting lost, learn how to tune in to your own spirit guides and intuition.
Be happy along the journey
So many people think they will be happy when they reach a certain goal. They want to get to the top of the mountain but don’t enjoy the hike. Don’t do that to yourself. If you’re not enjoying the process, you’re going to be that much more disappointed when your goal is denied to you. You will feel like you wasted a lot of time, money, and effort in the pursuit of something you didn’t get. But if you’re enjoying your life, and enjoying the journey, then if you reach a dead end you’ll still have the energy to turn around and find another way.
Have a backup plan
Is there only one way to get what you want? Is there really only one woman who will make you happy? One job that will make you feel successful? Is it really true that if you can’t have children that life isn’t worth living? If having something is outside your control, I highly suggest you have a backup plan. That way if you run into that brick wall, you still have other ways of living that will make you happy. Don’t put all your eggs into one basket, because if the basket hits that brick wall, all you’ve got is a scrambled mess of a life. Stuff happens. Have a backup plan and you will never feel so blocked that you can’t go on.
Ask for help when you need it
You can ask people for help when you are lost in the maze or if you hit the brick wall. Get support from your loved ones. Sometimes you smack that wall so hard, you can’t see straight. Let your friends and family take you by the shoulders and guide you back to a new path. Let them love and support you until you get your wits about you again. People can’t help you if they don’t know you’re stuck or hurting. Reach out.
Carry power tools
Sometimes you don’t have to back track through the maze of life. Sometimes you can bust through a brick wall like it’s not even there. This could mean finding a creative solution to a problem, turning a no into a yes, or ramming the barrier so hard that it simply crumbles at your feet. The power tools you want to take with you into the maze of life include: resourcefulness, creativity, the ability to negotiate, fortitude, courage, strong social connections, discipline, a positive attitude, etc. With these tools at your side, you may never be daunted by a brick wall again.
The bottom line here is to guard your energy while you’re walking. Don’t decide in advance that the only way to be happy is to achieve a certain goal, because if that goal is denied to you, you’re going to feel despair and lose all hope of ever being happy.
The trick with life is to be flexible. Once you decide what is you close your mind to the possibilities of what may be. Maybe there’s a reason you didn’t get that job. Maybe there’s a reason she said no to your proposal of marriage. Maybe there’s a reason you ended up not having children. You’ll never know it if you leave the game prematurely.
Trust in the universe. Trust your intuition. Listen to your guides. The maze is big and there’s much to explore. Enjoy the journey every day.