There are so many articles online about how to find your soul mate. If you’ve been reading my articles for a while you’ll know that I don’t believe in soul mates in the traditional sense. I don’t believe there is only one person out there that you are destined to be with for the rest [...]

In my early 20′s I had an acquaintance named Adam. The first thing I noticed about Adam was his self-confidence. He would very easily approach girls at a party, ask them to dance or ask them if they wanted a drink, and if they said no, he would shrug and move on to the next [...]

Do you love yourself? I don’t just mean do you think you’re really cool. I mean do you show yourself some love occasionally? Or do you just give and give to others? How long do you think you can keep up the one-way flow? How can you love others if you don’t love yourself first? [...]

How do you handle break-ups? Do you eat chocolate or ice cream? Cry on your friends’ shoulders? Go drinking with your buddies? Hole yourself up in your room with a box of tissues, a match, and a photo? If you’ve had your heart broken, you know there’s no fast and easy fix. You try to [...]

Episode #7 of the Ask Erin Pavlina YouTube Series: Submit your own question Subscribe to Erin’s YouTube channel so you don’t miss a single episode. This week’s question comes from Jan. She asks: “How can I say no to needy family members?” Here is the transcription of the video: Hello and welcome to another episode [...]

Before I had children I had this image of myself as a mother. I’d be part June Cleaver and part Gloria Allred. I’d make sure my kids were well fed, well groomed, well mannered, and well prepared to make it in the world, and then I’d don my cape and mask and go out and [...]

Is love enough to keep a partnership or marriage together? Are you in a relationship right now with someone you love yet you are considering ending it? Do you sometimes wonder if you’d be happier leaving your current partner? One of the reasons Steve and I hung on to our marriage for so long, before [...]

Have you ever suffered a loss? Said goodbye to a relationship? Or a loved one? Did you allow yourself to feel the pain of that loss or did you try stifle it, get past it, ignore it, or bury the pain? Are you still carrying that pain inside of you? Have you ever fully acknowledged [...]

Last year, Steve and I decided to end our marriage and let go with love. It wasn’t an easy decision and it wasn’t without its share of hardships and emotional turbulence, but one year later I can honestly say things are going pretty well for us both and I don’t regret the decision to dissolve [...]

How do you treat your partner when you’re out in public socializing with others? Do you show your love, appreciation, respect, and support? Or do you tease, make negative comments, or even embarrass your partner? Six years ago Steve took me to a Toastmaster Division contest and I wasn’t a Toastmaster myself yet. I was [...]